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Let me ask you a simple question: Have you ever felt like someone was showing hate towards you? Maybe you had just started a diet to lose weight. Maybe you decided to drop out of college or change your career. Maybe you realize that you don't want a career, and you want to work for yourself instead of making someone else rich. Hate is something that is almost impossible to avoid, and the more you excel in life, the more of it you will get. To be better at what you do and avoid something that causes most people to give up, you must understand the psychology behind haters and why they do what they do.
They say haters are really just your biggest fans, and this idea was made even more popular by Kanye West, who is known for being different. There is a lot of truth to this idea. As kids, we all had that one person who hated us. This person just seems to hate you for absolutely no reason. Maybe they've never really even met you, but they've engaged in passive behavior that made it obvious they didn't like you. The biggest mistake that people make when someone starts showing hate towards them is looking for flaws in themselves or whatever it is they are trying to accomplish. They start to doubt themselves or their goals. Then they try to look at it from the other person's perspective, which is a natural process for the brain to make sense of the unnecessary hate. Now, depending on your mental strength and many other psychological variables, you might assume that the hate is deserved and give up on your dreams, whatever they might be. At the other end of the spectrum, the hate might not even bother you, or it might even motivate you to push even harder.
When someone shows hate to you over the internet or in real life, you need to realize that something is wrong with the other person, not you. One of the main reasons why people hate on other people is because they are projecting their own flaws onto you. Some people are so scared to admit that they have flaws that they deny the existence of the flaws by accusing others of having those exact flaws. I said in an earlier video that a person's biggest flaw is almost always the flaw that they seem to always see in other people. If you pay close enough attention when talking to someone, it shouldn't take long for them to reveal their biggest character flaw to you by accusing others of having that exact problem.
The other psychological reason why someone might hate on you is because they are too insecure to watch you succeed and do well. The reality is that some people feel very uncomfortable in their own skin, and by trying to bring others down in any way that they can, it helps them move away from their pain of feeling insecure. Now, if your friend tried to work out and lose weight or build muscle and failed, he will feel insecure when seeing others accomplishing the exact goal that he failed at and never revisited. You might find it interesting that it will almost always be your closest friends and family who show the most hate towards you when you're trying to succeed or chase your dreams. How do you think that is? It's because we're influenced most by the people we're closest to. When your friend sees you succeeding where he or she failed, the hate will be even stronger because your actions have a greater effect on them than those of a complete stranger.
Now, if you see some guy on the TV that wins the lottery and walks away with five hundred million dollars, you could probably care less, right? Now imagine you get a phone call from your closest friend, who you've known since you were a young child, and he tells you that he just won 500 million dollars from the lottery. If you're especially insecure about your financial situation in life, then the news is going to hit you even harder. Why do you think it is that so many lottery winners become isolated from friends and family after winning millions of dollars when you think the sudden influx of money should have the opposite effect? The statistics don't lie, and they show that over half of Americans will retire flat broke, and 76% of the country is living paycheck to paycheck right now. This means that well over half the people in America are financially insecure. When you're insecure about something and you see someone else succeeding where you failed, it feels like a spotlight is shining down on you. You feel as if you're walking around with a giant sign broadcasting your insecurities to the world.
The good news is that everybody handles their insecurities differently. Some people become aware of them and work hard to eliminate them. Others realize they have them but choose to just live with them. Then you have the small percentage of people who, instead of working to improve themselves, choose to actively hate on others. A lot of these people are so unaware of their own psychology, thoughts, and actions that they're almost like hate zombies walking around with their arms up, hating on everything in sight. They actually don't have the slightest clue why they post mean comments on the Internet.
Now, another reason why people hate on others is because they fail to do something meaningful with their own life. When people aren't doing anything meaningful with their life and see others doing the opposite, they try to bring the other person down to their level of zero meaningful accomplishments. If these people come across someone who seems more successful or happier than them, they will hate on the other person in any way possible to move away from the pain of not doing anything meaningful. The spotlight, low self-esteem, is another aspect of the psychology behind why haters hate on others. People who have low self-esteem tend to get jealous of others easily, and this can lead to them trying to bring down people who are doing things that they decided they couldn't do.
The final psychological reason why people might show hate towards you is because they feel inferior to you and choose to handle it the wrong way. For example, imagine your friend works at a fast-food joint, and he just barely makes enough money to keep the hamster wheel spinning. Imagine you start a business, and within a year you're already making six figures in income. After your friend realizes what is happening, there are two major ways he can handle it. The first path, which is the one full of haters, involves feeling inferior to you and looking for ways to bring you down and criticize you. The second path still involves feeling inferior to you, but instead of choosing to hate on you, your friend uses your success as motivation to fulfill his own dreams of owning a business and making enough money so that he can finally stop worrying about money and how he's going to pay the rent.
They say your haters are your biggest fans because deep down they want to be you, or they want what you have. In some cases, the people sending hate your way really are your biggest fans, and other times they are just suffering from one of the other problems we talked about. Since the creation of the Internet, it has become so much easier for people to anonymously hate on others, and if you understand the psychology of why they are doing it, it is easy to see how someone could easily spend several hours a day posting mean comments on YouTube videos. Every single comment a hater leaves is like a mini-as from their own insecurities or flaws. It literally causes changes in the brain that temporarily make them feel better about the problems they're trying to project onto you. Many haters will actually disguise themselves as righteous individuals, as if they're doing the right thing for Humanity, when in fact they're really just trying to hate.
Only a small percentage of people in society are brave enough to chase their dreams and ambitions. These are the people who aren't afraid to start a business and fail because they keep trying. These are the people who are afraid to start dieting or ditch the job they hate for something they love instead. This small percentage of society is the people who aren't ashamed to admit that they are not perfect, and instead of trying to bring others down, they work on improving their flaws and bettering their life and the lives of others. So the next time someone starts hating on you, don't doubt yourself or your decisions, and realize that your actions are casting a spotlight on the haters, and the problem lies with them, not you. In fact, some of the wealthiest and most inspirational people on the planet would argue that if you don't have any haters, you're not trying hard enough. You can even use the haters as a measuring stick for your own success. The more successful you become at whatever it is you're trying to do, the amount of people who hate on you will grow larger, and deep down you'll know that you're succeeding. After the views for this channel grew by 50 times almost overnight, the small percentage of haters grew with it. That's the neat thing about haters: No matter what it is you're trying to accomplish in life, the good will always outweigh the bad, and as long as you know what you're doing is right and meaningful in some way, the haters will always be but a tiny fraction of the sour apples on the tree. With that said, never let these people get the best of you, and until next time, thanks for watching.