Feminization Fatigue: The Black Male Response to a One-Sided Social Contract

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Today, I wanted just to talk a little bit about what I think has been happening particularly amongst men and definitely amongst black men. And I call it feminization fatigue. Now, feminization is something that's been going on for the last few decades. I have not heard it talked about outwardly until very recently, but it was black men, at least in the circles that I found that started to talk about it in their own way.

Um, now I will say that when the concept of feminization was, you know, kind of talked about writ large, it put a lot of pieces together, but truthfully, many of those pieces were already put together in, uh, the circles, uh, that I run in. Whether we're talking about black male studies or whether we're talking about on YouTube, uh, black men have been kind of framing this. But alongside this feminization, this advancement in certain areas where women have kind of dominated certain spaces like psychology, journalism, so on and so forth.

Um, we've also seen a kind of blowback from this, and there's been a kind of exhaustion in some fashion with, um, you know, things shifting, you know, over in a way that isn't always productive, but it's simply more about, you know, catering to a dominant demographic, right? And we're going to look at a few different ways that this kind of takes place and just kind of outline the exhaustion that some black men have with that and what it means for them, right? How it impacts them. So, you know, fair use for everything we're going to kind of cover. Um, but, you know, let's check this out.

So, the first thing we're going to look at, I'm not going to play the actual video because I'm never quite sure, um, you know, what the copyright issue is on some of these things, but this is, uh, this is just an image. This is, this is just a still, and it's only like a 30-something second video you can find on YouTube. And really, all it is is this young woman sitting in a chair. Camera, you know, comes from behind her, spins around, you get to the front, and she's looking at you like this. This is a teaser for the upcoming "A Different World" show on Netflix. And, you know, you don't know who she is, but you can tell, you know, based on her skin tone and based on the flip-up glasses that this is more than likely Dwayne and Whitley's daughter. You know what I mean? And that's that's supposed to be one of the big draws, right? The the next generation of the "A Different World" cast. And that's great. I mean, to be honest, I enjoy "A Different World" in its time. I was one of the people inspired, I've said this before, by Cosby, by, uh, "The Cosby Show," by "A Different World" to go to college. It demystified it. Even though no college I've been to was actually like, uh, Hillman. Then again, I didn't go to an H.B.C.U., so I always figured that was the difference. But, you know, it inspired me nonetheless. It gave me a kind of idea about what college was supposed to look like. And I think that was one of the reasons that many of us were inspired to go. You know, when you don't have any kind of idea, especially if you come from a family that, you know, nobody's really gotten any degrees or some went and kind of went and, you know, you're not very close to those family members, it can be a bit jarring. It could be a bit intimidating to, you know, leave your parents' house at 17, go to some strange place you've never been, and then stay for four years. But things like "A Different World" kind of gave us a sense of what it would be like. And you kind of got this feeling that you might walk away with some friends, you know, some lifelong connections. And I did. I did.

The reason I bring this up here in regard to this notion of feminization fatigue is what I started to notice is with a lot of these shows that have been coming out in the last 5 to 10 years, especially if it's intergenerational and you're dealing with the children or the offspring of major characters that you've been familiar with. One of the things I noticed is they stopped having sons. Everybody started having daughters, right? That was the whole thing. The next generation is always female in so many of these shows. Matter of fact, when the first indications of "A Different World" came out, I posted it on Facebook, and we had a long discussion in the comment section about how many different shows were coming out with only daughters. It was like there was an eraser of the very idea of a son.

And so now there were males, right? She would have friends, but many of her friends would be effeminate. You know, many of them would, and I'm not even saying that they weren't straight. It had nothing to do with their sexuality. It was simply that they were effeminate. And in other words, in order for them to be acceptable men, they had to emulate female characteristics, you know, female gestures, you know, bodily movement. Uh, you know, they had to find some kind of way to make them identify with a female audience. And that was to mirror qualities that women, you know, exude. You know, there's a discomfort in popular culture with the very idea of masculine men. Even when those men are protecting, even when those men provide women with all the things they claim to want, some of the negatives about it is in pop culture, at least, masculinity is considered such a threat that in order to be perceived as an ally, you have to be effeminate or very soft in your demeanor, in your presence. In other words, you have to mirror women back to them. And that is, of course, in shows that are targeting a female audience, which many of them do, because women consume more media and they actually make purchases in response to that consumed media. Ergo, more and more media targets women. So I understand why these shows always have daughters. I understand the eraser of males and sons, right? But it's still part of the idea of male toxicity and the trend popularized on the left about, you know, the elimination of the male.

Now, understand this. I've been talking about this the last few weeks in regard to the father, right? In popular culture, the father has been under assault. I'm going to talk about this more when I do my live show on, uh, uh, on the He-Man movie, right? Cuz we've been seeing this for years now. The very, there's been an attack on the very notion of the father. There's been, there's been a very purposeful removal of the father from the conceptual idea of the family. We can even see this going back to B.L.M., right? 2014, 2015. You can see them talking about the dismantling of the nuclear family. They weren't talking about the dismantling of the nuclear family. They were talking about the removal of the male, the father. The sons are acceptable as long as they emulate the women in the family, but the women need to be in charge. And the only way the women can be in charge is to eliminate the men. So, yeah, they're attacking the nuclear family, but to be more specific, they're removing the men. And that's one of the things I've been noticing, and you see, you're seeing it here mirrored in popular culture. Now, obviously, they're not going to have a show with no men in it, but I'd be surprised if any of those men are masculine, and I won't be surprised at how many of them won't be straight. And in as much as I don't have a problem and I'm not attacking people with different sexual expressions, I am very keenly aware of an agenda to remove and tamp down the very presence of black men, straight black men at that. And I have to call it out, right? So that's one thing, right? So when I talk about feminization fatigue, I talk about how many men are starting to notice these patterns in popular culture and are starting to call them out. And the removal of men is one of them.

Right, let's look at another. Now, this is a clip, um, from the Daily Wrap-Up crew, some guys I really appreciate in my, uh, in the town I was born in, Brooklyn, New York. But, uh, they're talking about this whole notion of cooperation versus submission. Let's check it out.

>> American men, we keep trying to change the terminology to make American women feel you submissive. Yeah, I don't like that.

>> You say you want a woman to be submissive. Like, I, I'm never going to be submissive to a man. I'm never going to be submissive to a man.

>> Now we try to say, "Okay, let's go with cooperative." What was your problem with the word cooperate?

>> That's like you tell me what to do. Like I have to cooperate. I have to listen to you. It was never giving up.

>> Never giving up.

>> Can we get the textbook definition of the word cooperate? It says involving mutual assistance and working towards a common goal. So we can't cooperate together and make...

>> No.

All right. So, just in this, now understand, there's been a long-standing debate about this question of what it means, um, to, uh, what do you call it, to, uh, what it means to have submission, of course. And this is something that many women have been frustrated by. The very idea of submission is considered an offensive notion, right? I don't actually think most men, when they're talking about submission, and I noticed this about six years ago when the popular, when the conversation began to happen more, especially along Kevin's, uh, show. Um, I think most men really didn't have a formal definition of submission, not like in the biblical sense where there was a, there was a whole idea rooted around it. I think more so than anything, what they were talking about was really cooperation, was really just not wanting someone to disrespect them and not hear what they had to say. And I mean, it got so bad, and many of us have experienced this to different degrees, that you can answer a question a woman asks you, just to have her renounce her question simply because she does not want to be seen asking a man for any kind of help. You know, it's gotten that bad. So when I think of a lot of men talking about submission, I think in many ways, what they were really fundamentally talking about was a basic level of respect, right? Especially if they were the ones sacrificing, doing what they were told by society they were supposed to do, protecting and providing, that if they were going to play that role at all, the least they should be able to get out of this is some modicum of respect. And many found that they weren't getting any of that. And that, in and of itself, was a problem.

So that said, when you talk about, you know, feminization fatigue, here, I think what really, what we were talking about, or what we can talk about in regard to these conversations about cooperation, about submission, is that for the average everyday cat, now, if you're talking about a Christian pastor or somebody that's deep in the church or in the mosque and has a tradition behind it, or somebody who may not be religious but very much has a framework that they value in regard to this whole question of submission, that's a very different thing. But to the average everyday cat, I think nine times out of 10, what a lot of these guys were simply talking about was a basic level of respect. But you can hear, and how these women are responding, that even without the concept being brought up to argue over, they have a basic philosophy of not following or listening to a man. There's such a deep-seated misandry, or what we refer to as an anti-black misandry, that's rooted not only in African-American culture, not only in the larger society, but especially amongst black women. And black women in, in, in North America, most particularly, there's such a deep-seated anti-black misandry that's rooted in black women's culture, passed down from generation to generation, that the notion of needing a man, asking for help, listening to, learning from, all of these things are met with such hostility that you can imagine what actually happens in relationships. And these women are demonstrating that to you just in how they're responding to these questions. So you don't have to have a con, you don't even have to have a guy pushing for submission for the disrespect to be very present in the relationship, in the very dynamic between them. Hell, you got people who are going on the first date sensing this and dealing with this because it's not just about the debate on submission. It's about the culture in the community and how womanhood is defined, and it is defined in direct opposition to manhood. It's seen as a threat. It sees manhood as a threat, and, and, and definitely in the interest of supporting other black women. It sees, uh, you know, acknowledging men, learning from men, taking direction from men, being corrected by men, being taught something by men as a threat, right? And so again, when you talk about, you know, feminization fatigue, what we're really talking about here is the extent to which you have men that are quite frustrated and exhausted with the very notion that they can't be heard, listened to, or followed. And, and for many men, it's, you know, that's something they want to argue about. I'm of the line of thought that there's no argument needed. Once I detect that that's your culture, you know what? You, you, you know, do your thing. I keep it pushing. There's not, I'm not going to be up here debating with somebody about something like that. Not at all. If that's your belief, that's your belief. But it's not something I'm going to argue with. I just know enough about what I choose to do in a relationship and the kind of people I want to be around. Constant argument, debate, back and forth, I'm not doing none of that. I spent some of my youth in those relationships because I was told at the time that that's what it meant to be a good man was to deal with women like that. I choose not to. My preferences do not include constant back and forth. No, not how I choose to get down. That's how other people choose to get down. It's not how I choose to. So, I don't. And you have every right, men, to not engage that way.

Now, you can find this discussion not only in the black community. Like I said, this is a larger discussion going on in the West. And you can listen to Orion Terramman talk a little bit about this. And a lot of modern women are in this trap where some of the behavior that might work to get them the kind of relationship they want with the men they want to have that relationship with is frowned upon by their fellow woman. It's basically the equivalent of "singing" in men. And the equivalent of "singing" in men for women is anything that has to do with, let's say, traditional reactionary feminine behavior. That I'm going to be submissive for a man. That I am going to wait for him. That's how it used to be. The idea that I'm going to serve a man or make his life easier or do any kind of domestic help. All of these things would be seen as almost a betrayal of her gender at this point. And so even though those behaviors might instrumentally help her get the kind of relationship she wants with the man she wants to have that relationship with, it would come at the cost of, let's say, the respect of the women that she's competing against in her own intersexual status games.

>> Okay. So what you heard there, hold on, let me...

>> And a lot of modern women are in this.

>> Let me stop it there. All right.

So, what you heard was him describing on a larger scale how individual women are reacting to and remaining in contact with other women and seeking other women's approval of their conduct in relationships, right? This has become a Western practice. Now, women, you know, have listened to each other for, you know, since time immemorial. That's not necessarily new. But by a feminist standard, a Western feminist standard of not taking direction from men, that kind of thing, you can see that it's part of the larger culture. So, I'm not suggesting that black women are completely doing this by themselves. I just think that it's that old notion that when white folks have a cold, we get the, you know, the flu or pneumonia or whatever it is. So, when it comes to female independence, particularly among white women, that's one thing. With black women, it becomes a damn near war. And it becomes something. I mean, even white women actually take cues from black women in that respect. You know, they love to watch black women. They love to, you know, cheer on black women. You know, they love to hear black women talk about not following or needing a man, and then they'll go home to their husbands, but they still enjoy it, right? Which is very different from how other groups of women tend to act. But nevertheless, this is a Western phenomenon. This is something that's been happening for a while. So, it's not limited to black women, but in regard to fatigue, you can see that other men are starting to talk about the same things we do.

Now, if you listen to Orion early in his YouTube career, which was just a few years ago, he was using a lot of Kevin's talking points, which shows you that, you know, in many respects, and I'm just using Orion as an example here, you had a lot of men that took black men's cues and started to identify similar behavior in their populations of women. I would argue the behavior was not to the same extreme as in the black community, but it was enough for them to respond to it. So, they took cues listening to black men. Hell, if you look at the Passport Bros, other groups of men jumped on that real quick. But don't get it twisted. Black men started that. Black men started that, but other groups of men are following. So what Orion is doing here is talking about this as a wider Western phenomenon. It's not limited to black women, but I think black women and other groups of women do it to different degrees, different variances, right? So anyway, you know, shout out to Orion. I appreciate some of his content. And I don't get to follow it as much as I might have used to. Um, let me see. But I'll check it out.

Now, real quick, I'm going to get into another example, and it's an article, and I'm going to get to that in a second. This is about a 17-year-old named Jasine Easter. Now, we're going to get to the article in terms of what she did, but I wanted to just point something out to you. Now, I put in, this is just YouTube, and I was looking for videos so I wouldn't have to read you an article. I don't always find videos, but, um, as I was looking for it, I put in "17-year-old Jasine Easter" into the search, and it came up with a list of black males who had killed other black men. Now, Jasine Easter is a young woman, but, you know, I noticed like the first 10 posts were all men killing men. None of them had her name in it. And I'm just bringing this up to say that when you start to talk about, um, how even the data searches are configured, right? Whether you're talking about Google or YouTube, it's configured in such a manner that it will, you know, hyperfocus on men in a very particular way. And in this context, black men. All I put in was "17-year-old Jasine Easter." I didn't put murder. I didn't put, you know, violence. I didn't put anything. I said "17-year-old Jasine Easter." I didn't even point out, I didn't even use the word black. But notice how many of these articles or videos that came up that were all dealing with black men, you know, young black men killing. So, it really turned, what the search engine really did with it is it looked for 17-year-old, uh, males involved in shootings and so on and so forth, even though the search was for a young black woman. But here you go.

So, this is California Post. Uh, this is dated June 3rd of this year. "Maryland Woman, Teen Daughter Allegedly Beat Great-Grandfather 71 to Death Over Parking Spot." Yeah, that's what we're talking about. And you can look up this article over here. "Top Gun: Maverick Actor Allegedly Murdered by Girlfriend's Son." It's interesting, but not related to what I'm talking about. Just something to check out on your own. Anyway, um, sorry, just, I hate the way that thing moves. All right.

"A Maryland mother and her teenage daughter allegedly beat a great-grandfather over a parking spot, leading to his death weeks later. And now the mom could be hit with a new homicide charge. Kiana Bonapart, 49, was initially charged with first and second-degree assault, conspiracy to commit first-degree assault, and reckless endangerment for the brutal attack on a 71-year-old Baltimore transportation investigator, Gregory Turnup Seed. According to WBAL, the charges will most likely be upgraded to homicide after Turnup Seed's death was officially ruled a homicide by the medical examiner and Bonapart rejected a plea deal Wednesday." Right there he goes. The mom is accused of kicking Turnup Seed, who was on the job for Baltimore DOT, in the head, causing an ultimately fatal brain bleed during the parking spot madness on October 15th, 2025. According to prosecutors, the great-grandfather approached Bonapart's car to let her know another vehicle was waiting for the space she was turning into. Bonapart's 15-year-old daughter allegedly jumped out of the passenger seat and punched Turnup Seed in the face. When the 71-year-old tried to restrain the teen, Bonapart allegedly jumped on his back, causing him to fall. The mom then delivered the final blow, kicking him in the head while he was down before driving off, prosecutors said. Turnup Seed suffered a brain bleed and memory loss, but was able to identify Bonapart in a lineup. He was hospitalized and underwent surgery, but couldn't be saved. He died nearly six weeks after the attack, just one day before Thanksgiving. There's Kiana Bonapart right there. Um, says Turnup Seed's daughter, Lushelle Turnup Seed White, and cousin Deborah Carrington were present during the court proceedings on Tuesday. "I just thought it wasn't real. I didn't believe it until I actually saw it. I just couldn't believe that someone would do that to him." Turnup Seed White told WBAL he would help anybody. He was all, he's always been like that, right? You see the stitches in the back of his head. Staples. Damn. Turnup Seed suffered a brain bleed after, uh, Bonapart allegedly kicked him in the head. "It was very emotional seeing Miss Bonapart today," Carrington added. "It was a horrendous thing that she did to a very nice, loving person." It's unclear if Bonapart's daughter is facing any charges. Yeah. Yeah.

So, this is what we're looking at. Now, what does this have to do with feminization fatigue? There's an exhaustion, I think, with how these articles can come out on a regular basis, and, you know, they do, cuz I report on them on my show, but how many of them do you actually hear about in mainstream media? How many of them do you see reported on the main networks, and how many of them go viral even on social media amongst the people themselves? Right, these things are happening all over the place, and yet, despite that, there are news articles about them, they don't seem to get much traction. They don't seem to get much traction. Everything just kind of goes on, right? So the fatigue here, I believe, is that I do think that men are starting to get frustrated at how many of these reports, whether it's intimate partner violence, intimate partner homicide, or just homicide, you know, or assault or things of that nature that are happening to black men. Not only, I mean, we've already had this conversation about black men assaulting and, and, you know, deleting each other. That's been a long-standing conversation in the black community that goes back generations. So, that's never stopped. But you also have another line of violence that's starting to happen to black men that gets no traction. And it's the extent to which women and girls are participating in violence against men at all kinds of ages with no acknowledgement. Nobody says anything. It just happens. It continues to happen. And of course, we're also starting to see violations, sexual violations that get no acknowledgement whatsoever. Boys that are, in my mind, experiencing an unprecedented amount of sexual assault in schools. I mean, I consider it an epidemic, and I don't use that word lightly, but I do believe it to be an epidemic in terms of what young boys and men are experiencing in K through 12 in regard to, uh, female teachers sexually violating them. I just ran across three new cases today. You know, one woman had a, a PhD. It was, uh, you know, she's teaching in a K through 12 school, I believe, but she had a PhD and she looked to be in her 40s or 50s violating a 16-year-old boy. But these kinds of cases have been happening more and more. And there's no pushback in the larger population, whether it has to do with violence or whether it has to do with sexual violence. As long as the victim is a male of any age, young or old, it doesn't go, it doesn't get much traction. Doesn't get much traction. And I think people, and men in particular, are starting to grow frustrated because some of you guys, you, some of you guys don't even hear about these stories until you listen to shows like mine. And some of you have communicated in the comment section how frustrating it is that you have to hear about it in a comment section for a video, uh, for a, you know, home-based content creator. I'm not, I'm not backed by any corporate dollars. I don't, I don't have a studio in a building, or, you know, I'm an individual who took it upon himself to pull a story up and talk about it. But that's the only way there's a conversation about so many black men that find themselves being injured, if not killed. And there's no discussion about it beyond that. That's a problem. That's a problem.

Let's look at another way. Another way we're starting to see, um, this kind of fatigue thing taking place, right? Now, this is, uh, somebody you guys have seen a lot of over the last few years, I think. Uh, I think they call him Smart Guy. I like the brother. I don't know his real name. Some of you guys might fill me in in the comment section. And this is a clip I played before a few years ago, but it kind of ran across my desk again. I said, "You know what? I want to play it again." Uh, because I like this brother. And you can see it, even though the clip doesn't show it, there was an argument that took place with him and the woman sitting to the right of him in white. He's seated, seated in the center. But he makes a few statements that I think are important. Let's check it out.

>> And there's no empathy for black men. There's no sympathy for black men. There's no, you don't even love black men. You don't even know who we are. You don't give a about us. Okay. So, it's important that black men understand what was done to us and why it was done to us. It's also important that black women understand their position in systematic racism. But, but again, this is why black men need to be in tune with self. And when that woman is argumentative and she want to talk and every five minutes she got, she want to get a word in and she just can't check it up. Let her go. Don't beat on her. Don't catch no cases. Let her go. Like, just like literally let her go. Black men are the only race of men that gets publicly disrespected by their women and like, like religiously.

>> You see? So now when you come around as a black man and you know who you are and you know you're the leader, you know I'm a god. She's a goddess. I'm a god though. I'm the original man. Let me tell you something. You got women, right? You got some women, like, real, that hate black men. You hate everything about me. I'm a god. I'm beautiful. Black men need to have confidence. Listen, you know how beautiful you are. You know how beautiful you are. You know how beautiful you are. You know how beautiful you are. I know I look good. I'm not sitting here. Shorty, just go that way. Beat it. So, I feel like black men need to disregard how black women feel about our masculinity and and be more self-contained. I don't need you. I don't need you. I don't need your money. I don't need none of it. I'm not sleeping on your couch. Don't give me no keys. I'm going to get my own. I'm going to go to God. And when you don't want to fit my program, by God, you're not needed. You're dangerous. I don't want to bear seed with you. I don't want to sleep with you. I don't want to be your friend. I'm staying away from you. And there's a lot of black women that get it. And they, and they, and they love the masculinity that we project. Black men, we project energy. Women receive energy.

>> All right.

So, definitely what you can see there, right, is this whole kind of question of "let her go." And that's one of the reasons I wanted to play that because I thought that was an excellent example of a very particular type of feminization fatigue. Let her go instead of the back and forth, the bickering, the fighting, the debating on a constant basis, which really comes down to a power struggle. That's really what it is. And I'd say in the last few decades, men have found themselves, you know, more and more in power struggles. And here's the crux of it. There is a social expectation even amongst women that you lead. But when you lead, there ends up being a fight over power. And really, what it, what it took a couple of decades for me to understand is that yes, the idea of a man leading was received well, at least in public. But what it actually, what was actually desired was that I lead in a way that she approves of. In other words, she leads. I just do the heavy lifting and I do everything, and everything I do has to be by her standard and with her permission. She didn't want the responsibility of actively making decisions at every turn, but she wanted to tell me what to do. So there was never a moment, if she could help it, where I lead and she follows. You know, it was more so, I will allow you to lead until I don't feel like it anymore, right? But the idea that we're raising, uh, young boys with, without giving them the infrastructure for it, is that, yeah, you're supposed to lead. You're, you're supposed to protect and provide, and you're supposed to be the leader. And these are even in non-religious, uh, circles. You hear this rhetoric all the time on social media. And in some circles, it's treated as something that men are imposing on women. But in actuality, this is something that men have been told for the longest that we were supposed to do. This is what we were supposed to do. This, it was expected that we were supposed to lead, and we were supposed to, you know, be the example, and we were supposed to, you know, take the risks and protect, and, you know, if there was a threat, you're supposed to stand out in front of her. If there's a sound in the house that doesn't sound right, you're supposed to go get it. But here's the thing, and men who, who, you know, if they've ever done security work or military work, you know, nine times out of 10, what those guys will tell you when it comes to protection, 95% of protection is not being in a situation where you need physical protection. In other words, if you have the right kind of bodyguard or security person, they're going to direct you to an area and keep you in spaces where that's less of a risk, right? If I got to put hands on somebody because that's a threat, see, if I got to put hands on somebody, something could happen to me, something could happen to them. You know, I could punch somebody in the face, they fall, hit their head on something, die. Guess who's going to jail? That's a risk. Even if I'm a good husband protecting my family, if I bring us to an area where there's a, where there's, you know, I know there's going to be a threat, I'm risking the security of my family because if I got to go to jail, or hell, if I'm the one that falls down and hits my head and passes away, now my family has to struggle, right? So, what's the best protection? To put my family in a place where they don't have to worry about that, right? Whether it's where we live, whether it's where we're socializing, whatever it is, whether it's, it's, it's, you know, because I've had relationships with women where they'll call me and be like, "Yeah, you know, I decided to go grocery shopping at 1:00 in the morning and the one store that's open is in a bad part of town, and I'm just going to go by myself and, you know, she's got a little dress on." You know, just, I'm like, "What are you doing?" Right? Those kinds of things. The decision to put you in a safe space, that's leadership. But if you're constantly fighting with the woman you're dealing with over whether or not you should lead, that's exhausting. And it's not only exhausting, it just leads to a constant power struggle. So, so you're already negotiating this with the world. You're already fighting your way in the world. And you got to come home and keep fighting. And more and more men are deciding it's not worth it. If you don't want to be directed, guided, you don't want my experience, my wisdom, you just want to do things yourself, you want to control the dialogue, you want to control me while asking me to lead, but only in public so it can look a certain way, is just a waste of my energy. And so what he's talking about here is a perfect example of a different type of feminization fatigue. And the feminization I'm talking about in this context is in relationships. The constant battling for power, right, that happens with women who want the mantle of leadership without the responsibility of it. Most of the time, she's not about to pay your bills. She's not about to take you in if you lose your job, lose your place to live. She's not going to take responsibility for you. But men will. Men will. I don't care if you're making 50,000 or a few million. Men are more likely to marry or just be in relationships with women who have far less than them. Women have a different attitude about that altogether. Most women, no matter what she has, they're hypergamous enough to where they want to deal with men on their level or above. They do not want to deal with men below. And if they deal with men who are earning below, the power struggle can get real very fast. And the disrespect can get real very fast. I tell young men in a heartbeat, man, don't you move in her place. Get your situation up. Get your own place. You know, if you're ready to move in, y'all get a new place, whatever it may be, move her into your place. But hey, the moment she has something over you, you may not be ready for the level of disrespect that'll come. And it won't pop off until you have that first good argument. And some variation of "you ain't" and "I've had to carry you" will come out her mouth far too often. And because, and that's because it's indicative of a battle of a power struggle that's going on that many men are tired of. And that's what the Smart Guy here is trying to tell people. He's like, don't fight her. Don't argue back and forth. Definitely don't put hands on her. Don't catch no case. Just let her go. Whether you got to be solo or whether you got to go other places to find cooperative women. And he's talking about the same thing as the other clip, really, but find situations that suit your program. As he says, that's a form of fatigue. Men are demonstrating, and he's addressing that fatigue by counseling other men to go their own way and find what they need. So, shout out to Smart Guy, you know, I appreciate his work, you know, but yeah, he's breaking it down. He's breaking it down.

Now, here's the last one. And this one is a little, a little different. Um, let me get this here. I think I got, oh, yeah. Let me adjust that. So, this one is dealing with a clip I ran across where this woman is talking about the 500,000 unemployed black women. I don't know the date on when this was put out, but, uh, she approaches it from a unique way. And I think there's some merit to what she's saying, but I'm going to put it in context of this video afterwards. But let's check her out.

>> The reason why there's over 500,000 black women that are getting laid off and having a hard time finding a job is because these companies no longer want to deal with any more racism and discrimination cases. Now, I worked in HR for over 10 years, and I was actually let go because I took a look at our budget report and saw the pay differential between our white and black employees, and I exposed everything, was ultimately let go. Now, being an HR girly, you're well connected with other women in HR at different companies, and a lot of us had the same experience. We would receive a lot of discrimination cases from black women in leadership positions. Now, keep in mind, these companies were required to maintain a certain amount of black and brown staff members at one point, and a lot of these women were ending up in management positions. Black women were at the top of their game for a while. If they began to be a company nuisance, they would do anything to get their ass out of the door. And when I say a company nuisance, that means reporting discrimination, reporting racism. As soon as you do it, there is a target on your back. These companies will hold meetings with the top management and HR and say, "Hey, this person is becoming a company nuisance. They're affecting the company morale. What can we do to shorten their time with this company?" At which point, we go through all the policies, procedures, your performance, the company handbook, and see if there is anything that they can do to get your ass out of there. Things like, you might have been able to be 15 minutes late consistently due to traffic before, but now they're on your ass about your punctuality. You might have been able to come into the office with a bonnet every now and then because you're having a bad hair day, and now you're out of dress code. They would look for little things to just target you to make it seem like you are not performing well on the job. And obviously, we know that it's retaliation. They know that it's retaliation, but good luck proving that it's retaliation. These companies know that only about 2% of retaliation cases are even going to go anywhere. And before it's all said and done, you're probably going to go broke in lawyer fees and probably just get a really small settlement either way. But you still ain't got no job, and you're not going to get a good referral. They're not going to give you a good referral to another company. Actually, now the D.E.I. is over with, and they don't have to hire a certain amount of black and brown people to keep their shareholders happy. Discrimination cases are way down. They're able to use their HR staff to focus in on other claims and other cases. If they reduce the amount of black women that they keep in the office, they don't have to deal with the whole angry black woman stereotype. They don't have to deal with the discrimination cases. They don't have to really deal with the racism cases. And I mean, there are some, but it's a way smaller percentage than it was a couple of years ago. And so now, when you see all these black women saying that they're not getting callbacks, they're not able to find a job where it was easy for them just a little while ago, you understand that they wore out that whole discrimination and racism thing with these companies to the point where they are only keeping a very small percentage of black women. And they have to move a certain type of way to even be able to keep that damn job because they will replace your ass with a white woman quick as hell.

>> All right. All right.

>> I'ma wake them up with this.

>> All right. Sorry about that.

Um, so yeah, check this out. So, so in reference to this, what she raises are some significant points. Now, I would go so far, and I've said this before, to argue that I don't think Trump really went out of his way to eliminate black women. I think on a massive scale, he was identifying women on the left. And I think because when you look at who's lost jobs the most in D.E.I., it was unquestionably white women. His policies on D.E.I. affected white women more than any other demographic in regard to, you know, D.E.I. I don't think he lost any sleep about black women. And I think she may have a point about some of the things taking place because once you get black people in certain positions where they have access to information we traditionally don't, yeah, you start to find out about the pay differentials. And if you make any kind of statement about that, there's definitely going to be some questioning about how long you need to be in your position. I don't doubt her on that. But what I did find interesting about this though was something else. So, let me, let me pull out of this. And this is something I pulled up. Let's see. Right. And this had to do with Trump's policies, right? And the rollback of diversity programs. And, you know, according to Google, it, you know, it definitely impacted black women. That wasn't the question I was really asking. I was looking at the various job sectors, right? Part of the reason she could talk about 500,000 black women losing their jobs in these kind of D.E.I. spaces is because there weren't an equal number of black men in those spaces. Black women have had double minority status since the 1970s. They were, they kept, they checked off two boxes. They were women. They were black. And now you have a whole another component that wasn't active in 1973, which is sexuality, right? So if she's queer, now she's checking off three categories, right? Meaning that this became the system by which the determination to bring in more black women than black men played out. So yes, she's talking about why some of these women got fired. I agree with it to a certain extent. I, you know, I think there are other things that went on as well. But part of the reason so many were getting fired from these positions in these federal worker positions, professionals in fields like education, healthcare, social work, federal agency cuts, and corporate restructuring. The reason so many black women were vulnerable in those spaces is because they had a preponderance of them. And far fewer black men in those spaces. Now, don't get me wrong, white women were the dominant population. There's no question. But

In terms of DEI, the overwhelming impact on the black community in those spaces was women because men were excluded. That's part of the part part of the reason that this is part of the discussion, right? So it says occupational roles. A larger share of black women held specialized roles in diversity, uh, equity, and inclusion. Elimination of DEI positions and internal programs led to direct job losses for this demographic. Right.

And then it says, "Contrasting labor outcomes. While analysis point to significant job losses for black women in the public sector, employment for black men in the private sector, particularly across retail and professional services, actually experienced an uptick." That was early 2025. We, or I should say mid-2025, right, when it was reported that 300,000 black women lost their jobs. Black men got a little bit of an uptick. But I've demonstrated this, you know, through various charts over the last year and a half, that black men have always been more unemployed than black women. In 2025, there were just a couple of spikes where you saw black women exceeding black men's unemployment numbers. And that only happened once or twice throughout the whole year. But the standard, long before 2025 and all the way through 2025 to now, is that it tends to be more black men who are more unemployed, right? More so than black women.

But in this conversation about DEI, in regard to what the video said, the reason I played it is because in that discussion, nobody talked about the fact that there weren't an equal number of black men present. And definitely nobody talks about why there weren't an equal number of black men present because we don't check as many boxes. So for black men that did lose their jobs last year and this year, and there were quite a few, right? You can tell in terms of the unemployment charts, there is no conversation about how they were pushed out on the basis of being black men. Very little conversation about that, and that not, and definitely not in terms of DEI, right? Because there were fewer black men in those spaces to even experience that.

So when you start to see all these women moving up the corporate ladder and you see how many of them are now kind of pushed out of those environments, a lot of it had to do with the fact that black men were pushed out of those environments a priori. They were pushed out before people were even hired. They didn't even get a chance to get in those positions because we didn't check as many boxes. And this has been an ongoing issue since the 1970s and 80s. And it's only, at least in terms of the number of boxes checked, it's only gotten worse, right? But nobody talks about it. And I think this is yet another area that black men are finding frustration. It's like, we, the whole conversation about DEI in 2025 was so ridiculous to me because I'm like, nobody is talking about how many more jobs black men have been losing, and yet at the same time, in DEI spaces, how few black men were there to lose their jobs in the first place because they weren't welcome. They weren't welcomed into those spaces, and black women didn't care that they weren't welcomed. You know, you didn't once see any kind of protest where black women said, "More black men need to be in DEI." Y'all tell me. I have no problem being wrong about it. I would love to be wrong. Show me a major protest where black women were frustrated that black men, the men that they marry and have children with more often than any other demographic, were not able to get access to the same types of jobs they did.

And we saw this all the way from the private sector to the government, state from federal and state. And don't get me started on the nonprofit industrial complex. These women were getting grants hand over fist. I rarely ran into black men that were able to get grants to run nonprofits. Even when I saw them try to, some of them had to go so far as to hire women or family members or loved ones to be the face of it just to get the kind of support from grants for nonprofits all the way to the PPP loans. They had to have a black woman's face to do it. And black women will turn around real quick and tell you, "You ain't because you can't do what she can do." But she won't acknowledge that she's gotten a pass to do something that you've been excluded from. And that's the, the fatigue I think some black men really have about these whole conversations about unemployment and DEI job losses. It's the veiled way that it impacts black men, and nobody says a goddamn word, and you're supposed to take it and suffer in silence.

So, we've seen quite a few examples. I'm curious to know your thoughts. Let me know if I'm off base. Let me know what you've experienced. Let me know, uh, what you have to add to this conversation in the comment section. I look forward to hearing it. Highlight y'all later. Peace.