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point. The point is when you speak truth, it doesn't matter how it's said. The truth is the truth.
When you see these girls that's wild and reckless, a lot of time the masculine energy didn't put her in her place. So guess what? She walks around thinking, "Yes, put in your place is a good thing."
>> Yes.
>> I don't like the words that you use. I don't like the words. I don't like the words she's not leadable. Put in your place.
>> Guys, that's on my lip. Please don't date girls that don't think like this.
>> Oh, there you go.
>> If she can't understand it, it's because again, she was never taught it.
When you said, "Listen, if I say to her, I'm here. Show up here." And she doesn't show up, it's a wrap.
>> That's not what I said. Show up.
>> That's what you said.
>> Kenzie. Is that what I said? Please, please take him. No, let him let him say.
>> I think this episode has taught me that my brother is very narcissistic. I think
>> And you go look at these girls that's giving you advice. Go look at their list of men. Bum after bum after bum after bum.
Welcome back. I'm Sh. We got ourselves another video. We got ourselves a empowered dynasty video. Okay. In this video, we about to listen to a sister who don't like words. Yeah, she don't like words. Like dominant, submissive, like stay in your place. She don't like words. And the brother is going to tell her that, "Hey yo man, if you're dealing with a lady who has like a real problem when it comes to like words, she have a problem when it comes to these things like a like a guy being dominant or the words dominant or lady being submissive or the word submissive. She probably she probably either don't have a father or or beefs with her father." You know, there's certain ladies out here who say like, "Hey yo man, I can't stand my father." It's because that that's a wild one. She don't like to I don't know. It might It might be feminism. It might be college. Might be both. We don't know. But he about to have a back and forth with this sister. And I'm telling you, man, when you listen to her, cuz I did a video about them before. When you listen to her, it's like a headache. Like it's like we found a older like a older, you know, the older like Jazz and Molly and them gang. Like just just stick around. Listen to how this lady sound. But hold up. Just video need to hit the like button, hit subscribe, hit notification bell, and comment section. Give me a thumbs up or a heart. Just let me know that it's real. And you know, before we get to the video, I need y'all to hit the hype button.
>> Like the video. I go ahead hit the hype button because this brother, he says a lot of things just correct. It's it's like he he just got all down packed. The [ __ ] do it like like fire. It just it just keep going like back to back to back to back. It's pretty accurate. It's pretty accurate. And the lady, she's pretty crazy. She's pretty crazy. But let's waste no more time. Let's roll the clip.
>> Oh, you know who that was? Oh, that dude.
>> So, so speaking on based on how much money you spend as a man. So, if you know most men, we they're spending a lot of money cuz they want to smash. What is logically what is going through? Like, what is going through y'all brains when you taking a date, you're going to the Pugles, you're getting a Chanel bag. Like, what are you going to are you going to let him smash? Like,
>> can I answer that? El Boogie said, "Why do men try to lead someone?" When you get a real man, El Boogie, that mean you mess with boys. Respectfully, a real man is always going to lead. And the reason why the man that's not trying to lead you because they not men. Real men will always establish leadership. And the reason why is because he's supposed to bring protection, security, and also provision. So if a man is not leading with those three things, therefore that man is not a man. So that mean if you have to entertain those guys, then you should be looking at the guys you getting in bed with. Sometimes there are men that get in bed with little people and there are girls that get in bed with little boys.
>> Yeah. I feel like when you when you say the phrase like, "Yo, if I tell her to come here and she can't come, that means she's not leadable, so I'm not with it." I feel like I'm good.
>> We should be able to have a conversation of, "Hey, now you know me. What are we doing?"
>> If I said that to a woman, you think she's going to come?
>> I'm actually so full of yourself.
>> I'm so full of truth. You're
>> so full of yourself. I feel like you're being extremely full of yourself. Okay.
>> So, you tell a woman show. No, that's not what I said. You got a degree?
>> Yes, I do.
>> What you got your degree in?
>> In early childhood development.
>> So, if someone was here having a conversation about children and you say, "I have a degree in early." That's not you trying to belittle them. That's a fact. Q. What does one have to do with the next?
>> Because you missed the point. The point is when you speak truth, it doesn't matter how it's said. The truth is the truth. I know for a fact if I'm going after a woman, I'm going to go after a woman that's leadable. Secondly, I'm going to make sure that I establish dominance off the rip. What I mean by dominance is, yo, I want to see if she's leadable. Is she able to submit? Most women that can't submit is because they never submitted to her father. So sometimes you might be fighting against the woman who's fighting against her father because he WAS NEVER THERE. DAMN. LISTEN, when I'm going to break something down to you, Shane, you got a little girl, right? If she doesn't have a dad, right? And look at me when when I'm having this conversation with you.
>> Don't talk to me like that. You don't
>> respectfully
>> say please.
>> I'm not saying none of that.
>> Okay.
>> Look, cuz you always over there. That's why I'm saying that. That's why I'm saying that.
>> I'm listening to you. I'm listening to you.
>> So, look, you got a little girl, right?
>> Okay.
>> This little girl, when she doesn't have a man
>> that teaches her how to take constructive criticism,
>> she rebelss against it. Every person I know that works at a group home or any kind of child facility, you know what the boys do? They rebel against who? Who you think the most?
>> Masculine figure.
>> The masculine figure.
>> Mhm.
>> The reason why the boys rebel against the masculine figure because they never been est dominance has never been established over them. So that 14-year-old boy thinks he's a man. Because a masculine energy never put him in his place. When you meet a 14-y old boy that got a masculine energy, guess what he acts like? A 14-year-old boy.
>> You understand? When you see these girls that's wild and reckless, a lot of time the masculine energy didn't put her in her place. So guess what? She walks around thinking, "Yes, put in your place is a good thing."
>> Yes.
>> I don't like the words that you use. I don't like the words. I don't like the words she's not leadable. Put in your place, you know. Um, establish my What? Okay. So, you don't like the words that he used? Did you listen to what he said? Did you listen to the words that he was saying? A young man who is out here trying to go against masculine figures probably didn't have a father. A young lady out here being a a [ __ ] bucket probably didn't have a father. Like did you listen to the words that he said at least
>> it's not about being single Q. It's like you sound arrogant.
>> No, you sound like you sound like you honest. [ __ ] If you a supervisor if you a supervisor at a job say I would hope you establish your dominance. Assert yourself and make sure that your staff respects that you're the dominant figure.
>> Q comparing two unlike things. Leadership is leadership.
>> No. Yes. Leadership is leadership, but you're talking about two things that are unsimilar. Saying that you're a supervisor at a job when your job is to oversee a staff is something from you saying, "No, we're not talking about that. We're we're going back to you saying on a date if she's not this and I'm if I tell her I'm here and she doesn't show up, then that means she's not leadable." I'm just saying to you that
>> don't you move what the hell you just said a second ago. No, [ __ ] You didn't like the words when he was when he was speaking about putting people in their place and like the dominant thing. You that's what you said. The hell you can't spin me and then say, "Oh, no. Now we're going back to we're talking about the date thing." No, you wasn't. That wasn't what you was just previously talking about. That that wasn't what it was. You he literally had you you brought up the thing about overseeing it. It was literally about the leadership thing and him o him dominating or putting people in their place. Don't go back to the date. Don't you don't you backtrack. You're crazy. You're nuts. Okay. Okay. She's one of the ones he was talking about.
>> That's not
>> Guys, that's on my lot. Please don't date girls that don't think like this.
>> Oh, there you go.
>> If she can't understand it is because again, she was never taught it. She was never taught it. Okay.
>> A real man understands that you establish your dominance. If you expect me to be willing to to give my life for you, I have to have control over this situation.
>> If you out with a girl that's acting a fool, we outside. Let's just say magically, let's put a situation together. Tyler, you and your girl outside. She's she see that it's 10 guys and it's just you and she's screaming at the top of her lungs and you telling her to chill and she don't listen to you. You do not control that situation. She controls you.
>> She has no respect. My girl will never do nothing. No, it's not. What I'm saying is if you cannot establish dominance that mean you cannot stop the world. Yo, you can't tell. Yo, chill. Calm down. What are you doing?
>> You don't like the word dominance. That's
>> dominance is in in a word of it has to be leadership. Someone has to be the dominant player. Someone has to be.
>> Not in this. Do I do I belittle my woman? Do I make her feel like she's beneath me?
>> No, I'm asking you. Yes or no?
>> No. Not that I've seen.
>> Okay. Not that. But again, it's not about making you feel little. It's knowing that someone has to be the main player. Somebody
>> someone has to be there is not two there's not two steering wheels in the car.
>> Okay, I'm understanding but there's not two steering wheels in the car.
>> This was one point we were talking about was the Yes. There's not two ste I'm listening to you. There's not two steering wheels in the car. We're going back to when you said a first date. I'm still on that when you said listen if I say to her I'm here show up here. And she doesn't show up. It's a wrap.
>> That's not what I said. Show up.
>> That's what you said.
>> Kenzie, is that what I said? Please take the mic. No, let him let him say it. Are we going to take the mic? Give her the mic. Give her the mic. Tell her what did I just say, bro? Please. What did I just say?
>> You said what you said, but if she if she replied saying, "I'm not going to do all that."
>> I'll pass on.
>> That's when you pass on. That's what you said.
>> That's what I said.
>> You said I'mma be here. If you would like to come,
>> if she really likes me, she would show up.
>> She would show up, not come here now.
>> I never said that.
>> Okay. So, if I don't come to where you say that, then it's a wrap from the first day. What if What if
>> Don't No, no, no, no, no, no. Don't Don't let her You see this is the thing with with when with when [ __ ] Everybody need to understand to not allow [ __ ] to do what she just did when you were wrong about what someone said. Don't let them keep going. I'm going be honest with you. The conversation is supposed to end. That topic supposed to be over cuz now you know that this [ __ ] don't clean their ears. You know this [ __ ] don't listen. They or they can't. That's why you don't clean your ears. Her ears are full. They're full of doodoo or ear wax. It could be either one, but you now know she doesn't listen. And for y'all to continue this, you're doing yourself a disservice. And all you going to do is piss yourself off. And now you're going to create holes in your room in the walls cuz that's all you'll be punching is the walls.
>> If it's like I said, it's something where I'm can we do something else? Maybe we could do coffee or something different over what? I'm not saying, "Oh, I'm just not coming." Would you
>> If a woman is extremely interested, she going to make her way.
>> Okay. I met women I met women right now that are lead they friends to come come get next to the man they want to get next to.
>> If your woman is pref like is is is making her friends her top priority over you. That ain't your woman. That's your friend woman.
>> He got to hit that but hold on. If your woman is choosing her friends over you, then your her friends is her priority and not you, buddy. Cuz my woman will never do that over me. Never.
>> I don't know where that came from, but okay.
>> No, what I'm explaining to you is if I sit there and say, "Yo, Shay, we just met. Mhm.
>> We exchange contacts.
>> Mhm.
>> You already put in your mind what you see me as.
>> Mhm.
>> And vice versa for me.
>> Mhm.
>> Right.
>> Right.
>> The only thing that can change how I'm viewing you at this moment
>> is when we get on a phone, how you start talking,
>> right,
>> are how she smell when we have sex.
>> Oh,
>> look. They they they saying that it's too aggressive and it's
>> agreed because they don't have fathers.
>> Come on, Cute. Stop saying that. Stop. I hate when I hate when someone disagrees with you and you assume it's because they don't have a father. They have people have their own way of thinking.
>> That's crazy what you just said. First off, first off, is he is he taking a leap by saying that they don't have fathers? No. In actuality, he's not taking a leap because, you know, you look at the stats, it's most likely that they were raised by a single mother. Most most likely. But if a [ __ ] tell me he is speaking too aggressive and I think she said controlling and I mean I think he said the guy said controlling like aggressive and controlling. Yeah. That sound like a [ __ ] that really like they don't like they don't like like to be like second or like third. They don't want somebody to be above them. Hey yo, let's both make decisions together. No you. I won't do that. Not doing that. Never. This is the reason why [ __ ] can't get nowhere. Let's let's let's date back, right? Every healthy relationship you seen back when you was a kid, right? Would you say the man was dominant?
>> Yes or no?
>> I don't like that word.
>> Conversation. I don't like that word. Let's move on. I don't like that. I don't like that word. I don't like that word.
>> But again, I don't like that word.
>> You got to be mindful. Like, that's why I don't go with the comments. That's why I don't like doing this all the time cuz the comments become her mentality.
>> Yeah.
>> Because again, I don't even read them. The reason why I don't read them is because again, you can have a woman that's sitting at home single as hell
>> who's fighting the fact that she wants a dominant figure but can't accept dominance.
>> Someone has to be the dominant in the house. If a woman say we're we're equal, no, we're not because you're NOT EQUALLY TRYING TO PASS AWAY WITH ME IF SOMEBODY come break in the house.
>> You're not equally trying to pay these bills with me.
>> Damn.
>> You're not equally trying to lead. You're not equally TRYING TO DO ANYTHING OTHER than beh. So guess what? I take that role and you expect me to pay the bills. I'm going to do it. I'm going to keep us in a great position. I'm going to put us in a great position and I'm I'm going to make sure that I'm sacrificing me. My woman can never outwork me. If someone that got to do overtime is going to be me way, way faster than my girl.
>> That's what a man does. But again, THE WOMEN THAT CAN'T ACCEPT these kind of men is because they never had real men. There was never a real man in their life. Real men do not compromise for what we think.
>> We don't bend. We say this is what we say and this is what it is. And if a person don't like it, we we're willing to leave it alone.
>> A man is not a real man is not going to bend for you.
>> He will compromise for you. Big difference. But again, we y'all want certain guys. You're not going to get these certain guys if you don't understand what I'm saying is facts.
>> You're not going to get them. And you go look at these girls that's giving you advice. Go look at their list of men. Bum after bum after bum after bum. I'm telling you the kind of guys that they say they want, they don't understand that we come with certain expectations. The same way you come with certain expectations. Our expectations, I want a woman that's submissive. Submission only means the willingness to allow to lead.
>> You allowing me to lead you believing that I'm taking
>> you know your destination cuz some women are not going to allow you to lead. Some of y'all men don't know where y'all going.
>> But those are the guys that want us to be submissive. That's not me.
>> Okay.
>> We going to a destination.
>> Okay. But again, if a woman is off the rip fighting it, it's because she never seen real men.
>> She know she probably dated sass.
>> Real men don't care. Yo, I'm not going to lie, respectfully, and this is being fair. If a woman tells me I'm breaking up with you, yo, that's on you. A woman could never make me mad talking about something, oh, you want to play with me, I go outside and cheat. I'm going to break it up with and call it a day. Give her a high five while she walking out the door.
>> It's still love her. But I love me more
>> to the point where I'm not gonna ever make myself look like a clown for a for for a woman who wants to be outside in the streets.
>> Never.
>> I think men need to get
>> I think that's foolish.
>> We need to get back to that.
>> That's foolish. You willing to compromise yourself as a man because of how she Oh, if you quit, I'm going to go outside and cheat. You know what? Go do you.
>> Go do you because clearly I'm you're not the woman I thought you was. But do you think that sometimes with women we compromise our value and our worth for men who go outside and do the
>> value goes up when you get a good
>> when I'm talking about
>> just so you know that your value go up when you get a good man
>> and your value doesn't change if you get a good woman
>> but the expectations of what a man is expected to do to be considerably a good man and what the expectations of a woman is to do to be considerably a good woman is nowhere near equal.
>> A good man is a provider. Would you agree? Yes or no guys?
>> Yes. Protect.
>> A good man is a protector. Right. Mhm.
>> A good man that keeps security and keeps the house situation stable, right?
>> He is the first in defense of anything to happen, right?
>> Mhm.
>> And if a man is not like that and running from the battlefield, he is not a man.
>> So reality says this to me
>> as the man that's doing these things.
>> Therefore, I have to have extreme submission because I can't lead something that's not submittable. I can't lead what's not leadable either. It's impossible. And I will not fight for leadership when you don't want someone to lead you. M
>> because if I got to prove my masculinity to you, then I'm dating the wrong woman because a woman sees what she sees.
>> Okay.
>> She knows what she sees.
>> I'm so glad this is all your opinion and it's just for you. So, I guess that to each his own, you know.
>> She didn't care about none of that. This [ __ ] is [ __ ] She don't She didn't care about none of that you were saying. This certain [ __ ] you got knocked down some stairs. That was wild. And what was the point? I want everybody to answer that. What was the actual point of this [ __ ] with the crazy looking nose to say some [ __ ] like that? I say, I'm so glad that this is just your opinion. You got to say that out loud. You say out loud, black squidward. Why the [ __ ] you say that out loud? All you did was piss me off. And now you you want me not to attack you, right? Verbally, of course. That was You got to like it's like it's hard. It burns my chest inside for me not to attack you after you do some silly like that. You you you are a disgrace for an adult.
>> So we I could never date someone that's aggressive. You want you want
>> arrogant. It's a little bit of arrogance and a little bit too much aggression for me. That's your logic and that's fine. Like I it's okay. I don't care about the comments and I don't really a man could be strong. No, no, no. Like please. A man could be strong but he doesn't have to be arrogant. I don't like arrogance. I don't like arrogance.
>> It's called truth.
>> It's not truth. And when you say dominant, yes, a woman wants a man who's going to lead, who's going to be a good leader. But I feel like when you're leading with that kind of and if she's not this, and if she's not that, and if she's not that,
>> I don't like that. I don't like that.
>> Let me say something. So, hold on. Watch this.
>> The man is supposed to be the GM. The GM is who creates the whole situation,
>> right?
>> So, now he's he's supposed to be the quarterback, right? If the man doesn't think like that,
>> then this guy is a waste of life
>> because he doesn't understand you're going to be judged by what you haven't built.
>> So therefore, if your situation is trash is because you think trash and you worthy of trash. That's why technically not not to correct your brother, but technically the guy in the family, the guy is actually the head coach. He's the coach of the team. The wife is the quarterback. Cuz think about it, the coach is the one who established the plays. He established the the the formation that y'all gonna run. And the quarterback, unless your wife ising Peyton Manning, which means she get to do Omaha. Omaha. Now, I ain't going to lie to you. I wouldn't advise you to do that. But there's some women that can do that. There's some. But the wife is actually a quarterback where she's now telling the children, you know, the children, the food thing, the house stuff. She's she's doing all this stuff underneath the formation and the plays that the husband or the the coach have given her. In actuality, the wife is the quarterback and the husband is the coach of the team. I just want to give y'all that information. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like I did a good job kind of. But if I get a woman, a woman is supposed to be my helpmate by biblical terms, my helpmate. Okay.
>> So therefore, she'd be simply helping me get to where we going to.
>> Okay? So if you chose a woman that ain't helping you, you a fool.
>> But you helping helping to me our job in a household, your man does his part, right? Because you've said this before in a two family household nowadays, we both got to contribute to Bill, right? Agree. Okay. A woman is doing her part. There's an expectation of a woman and there's an expectation. That's not biblical. You going to hell. You need to go read the Bible. Read the Bible.
>> There's an expectation of a woman, an expectation of a man. Do I think that men are supposed to be leaders? Yes. Do I feel like it's a natural for a woman to kind of I don't want to say follow ladies like oh we following him but you know just you're supposed to be a leader but I'm saying with the way you came off with such arrogance. I don't think that's how you perceive well first off the way that she tried to to run away from just saying following a guy is already a damn problem. That right there itself was crazy. That was some crazy. Yeah, a man supposed to be a leader and a lady I'm not gonna say following. WHY THE HELL NOT? Like why the hell not? That was some crazy for her to do.
>> Want to follow with that?
>> Yo, overly confident men overly confident people they disturb people's insecurities. I'm going be honest. I'm not insecure.
>> I'm not saying you I'm just speaking in general.
>> I'm not insecure. Just stay with me. That's what you say, right?
>> That's what you say.
>> I'm not.
>> And I'm giving you the Listen, I'm giving you grace. That's what you're saying. Okay.
>> What I'm just saying again, when when a person is extremely confident and they know themselves, they're going to be labeled as everything other than what they are because people haven't reached that level of confidence. In order for a man to be a great leader, he has to have a level of confidence like this level.
>> He has to be. He can't be second guessing himself. He got to be short of himself and know who he is. When a man doesn't know who he is, he questions who he is. And he's still looking for people to make him feel who he is. With or without a woman, I am who I am. I'm him. And a man should think like that. When a man don't think like he's not good to lead nobody.
>> So you don't think some men know who they are and are sure of who they are but don't have to come off the way you're coming.
>> You sit down. They don't talk to you the way they talk to me.
>> They don't talk to you the way they talk to me.
>> That's the difference. Men are not like me. I'm very vocal. I tell the truth.
>> But again, I talk to 80 times more men than you could ever talk. And I'm going to be 100% honest with you.
>> Okay?
>> I tell the truth.
>> No. You saying that you talk to more women than me.
>> Okay?
>> And I'm not going to rebel against that. I'm not going to fight it. It's a fact. So the fact of the matter is that I talk to men and they're telling me the men that are really who they say they are, they think like me. I promise you they think like me. They not going for it. You think a man that's super established going to date a woman that's cheating on him?
>> Come on.
>> It takes a whole bozo to do something like that.
>> Where did that come from?
>> No. What I'm getting at is weak men accept weak behavior. For instance, imagine a man that's super established. You going to have a woman walking in the house cursing him out and telling him about his stuff all the time.
>> Yeah. Right.
>> Yeah. Come on. Come on. Come on. So I I think I think society has gotten so watered down. Masculinity has for men. Anytime a woman or a person sees a confident man, they think it's arrogance. They think it's cocky.
>> Why do you think masculinity
>> It has.
>> Why do you think that masculinity has been taken away from men?
>> Why do you think so?
>> Because they want to feminize men.
>> They want to feminize men because on the women again listen cuz they don't want strong confident men because you got
>> You don't think women want strong confident men? Strong confident men leading talking like that and it's a problem. Yes, it is.
>> You want to Hey, Shay,
>> you
>> So, where do you want to go to eat?
>> Like, come on.
>> They like you.
>> Y don't have a leader. He's not leading. He's not doing this.
>> You know why men like that? You know why the men that got their life together act like that? And why they talk like that? Because they want, they know they have options. And we being fair and honest. And the fact that they have options, if this woman is not making me an option, if why am I making her an option? Because of the fact that what she has a vagina, that's [ __ ] I'm going to look for a woman that is clearly willing to follow my lead and see where we going with this. If a woman is willing to say, "Yo, I'm like, "What are you doing Saturday night? I don't have any plans. Yo, I would like you to meet me at such and such." And she doesn't want that. I'm good. I'm good.
>> I don't think that men have to talk a certain way to be masculine, act a certain way. I think that you have some men that they're present, just their aura, just how they are just screams masculinity. I don't think every masculine men has to have an arrogant undertone. And that's just the way I am. My dad,
>> that's some female. Well, you about to say something about your daddy. You about to say something about your daddy. All right, wait. Let's see what happens.
>> Was extremely masculine. My dad was a provider. My dad was all of those things. And he just wasn't a yeller. He was He just had a ways about him that was just respectable. And that's what it was. That's what
>> I mean, we don't even argue.
>> My girl makes overund some thousand a year. I make more than her. And we don't fight and argue. We never had a fight about money. We never disrespected each other about finances. Ever. Ever. Ever. Ever. Ever. Ever. ever. And I can make a comedy right now. Ever.
>> But I'm just saying finish my
>> Don't just say anything. Don't bypass what he just said. All he's saying is that I don't this thing that is happening right now that you you believe that I'm doing. Why do I have to do this with my lady? Huh? Tell me about that. Why don't I have to do this about my lady? All right. So, first, so let's get one thing straight. Wrinkles. You don't like to listen. You don't like to listen. You you keep saying this crazy [ __ ] when other women say that they want a leader but then they want their leader to to be their partner which is crazy. That's the crazy in the world. I want a lady who's straight but only wants to sleep with women. That's crazy what you what that's what I keep hearing from yo trying not to call you [ __ ] Okay. Trying real hard not to do that. And I hate it when these [ __ ] always bring up they daddy. My daddy. My papy. That man did not have to talk the way you talk and he was a great leader. And for some reason, for some reason, they always say this [ __ ] was a provider and then they stop. He was a provider and then they just continue with they they think they don't say the [ __ ] made great decisions. They always just say he was a provider. But you know, that's just me being triggered. I'm triggered. I'm triggered by her right now.
>> What I'm getting at is my girl accepts the fact that she's a feminine, strong woman.
>> Mhm. A masculine man is not looking for a masculine female and a woman. And again, in order to be a protector, I hope you have a level of confidence that stands out. Aggression doesn't always necessarily mean arrogance. It means confidence. If I walk into a sports arena and say I'm the best player on a damn team,
>> confidence two different things. Yeah, but you aggression and confidence don't go together. You can't be aggressive and say, "Oh, that's confidence."
>> That's She knows what it takes to be a man.
>> She knows what it takes to be a man.
>> I'm not Look, Q, it's not about being a man. You just said to me, "Aggression and confidence are the same thing." They're not. You're being extremely aggressive. You're being extremely arrogant. I don't know what you're saying that way. I don't think that that is the way to exude your dominance. You don't know what it takes to be a man. I don't think you need to be that aggressive to know.
>> You know, the best the best way to raise a young man, the best way is to pour purely into his confidence. Because if you want this man to be a great leader, you have to make sure that he knows he's a leader%
>> and you have to make sure he knows that a woman is supposed to compliment him and he doesn't need a woman, but she's supposed to compliment him. The men that feel like they need women, they become emotionally leeching and they're very weak.
>> Victims,
>> weak victims.
>> Weak because they feel like they need a woman and women takes advantage of those guys.
>> You're supposed to look at a woman like, "Yo, I I WANT YOU. I don't need you. I want you. I want you. Women like to be wanted.
>> Men don't a woman don't like men that that want her. I mean that need her. Women don't like that. They never respect men that need them ever. So as a man, you shouldn't need a woman. You should want her.
>> I want you. I choose you.
>> So if a man doesn't think like that, he is not a man. He should know with or without his woman, he is him. And the woman is supposed to compliment him.
>> Mhm. And again, if he's overly emotionally or he needs her, you have a problem within yourself.
>> But you know what it is.
>> It's bad.
>> You know what it is? It's
>> And believe me, I've been there before when I was younger.
>> It's men when anytime you got in an argument with another man is you ain't got no woman. You ain't got this. I get more women than you. So that put in your mind like, damn, if I don't have a woman, I'm nothing.
>> You said when men get into argument with other men in
>> the day as kids when we got in arguments with other men,
>> they would tell us, yo, I get more women than you. So when you grow up, you literally think like, yo, if I don't got nothing attached to me, I'm nothing. I'm nothing to myself.
>> So can I ask you a question?
>> Well, men and women did that. So that's that that's not just men saying that to to other men. Men would say that you you don't like you don't get nothing. You don't get none. And women would say, I I know you don't get no no or you don't get no like women say that too. That's both of them. It's a way of it's a way of putting women. It was it's like a social thing. It's it's a social hierarchy thing where they keep they find a way in we real weird little I mean weird little sneaky ways of pushing women really high pushing them on a pedestal cuz women say that and men say that. So so that's that's really what that's about. It's not just men. That's that's technically uh black culture now. Well technically it's black culture now which is a sad thing.
>> Do you think every man is made to be a husband? I think if we're following the Bible, yeah, it's supposed to be. So, you're supposed to be husbands and women are supposed to be wife. But I don't think we go back to I want to cry again, y'all. Y'all know last week you had me on here crying with you.
>> I said no. A lot of people said no.
>> I don't think Okay, I'll take that back. No, I think that sometimes, but it goes back to what I said to you.
>> I want to finish my point.
>> Okay. I'm sorry. You asked me a question, but you go ahead. Do you think every man is made to be a husband?
>> No.
>> Do you think every woman is made to be a wife?
>> No. See, the issue is when we looking at comments, you could be looking at a woman that's not made to be a wife, and you could be getting comments from a man that's not made to be a husband.
>> Stay with me while I'm saying that,
>> okay?
>> When you understand what it takes to be a man and the expectations of what it takes to be a man,
>> me and you will have a different conversation. I'm going to tell you something and and it's a statistical fact, right? You know, there's two women together is considerably what? That's that's a lesbians, right?
>> Mhm.
>> You know, they lead in divorce and separation.
>> Okay.
>> Why is that? I don't know. I could never be with a woman. I don't what I'm just getting at is you would think two women coming together, they should understand each other and have the most healthiest marriage. They have a high 70s percentage of divorce. 70 something% of divorce.
>> Okay?
>> And they be knocking each other up, boy. They be just going boy. They be just knocking each other head between washer and dryers. Them mother be giving each other like whiplash. It's like it's like it's like James Tony versus Mayweather. You know, they're both two counterboxers. So, it's like throw a punch. Whap wap wap wap. Like they boy don't let two vaginas be in the room and then them [ __ ] get mad. The emotions and violence. Oh man. It's like two Tasmanian devils. 70s something percent. Sh. That's a lot. That mean like 23 to 24% of two female marriages have a success rate.
>> Mhm. And anyone that's on this live, they can go Google it right now. Go Google it.
>> Go Google it. So what I'm getting at is if the success rate is that low, that mean there's clearly a problem.
>> Mhm.
>> And in order for you to establish the respect of a woman, you got to respect yourself first,
>> right?
>> You got to respect. No woman respected no man that don't respect herself. I'm sorry. It ain't happening to no real woman. She going to always challenge and combat. I don't go through that. And my woman, I don't have to yell and scream at her. I don't do that. My blood pressure is not high. My blood pressure is high on responsibilities. My blood pressure is not high on my household. My house is the safest space that I have
>> as it should be.
>> But a lot of men don't have that at all. Yeah. Read that. Say now give it to her.
>> Read that. Lord, within the LGBTQ RSUV,W2XYZ community,
>> research across several countries, including the US, UK, and other countries, consistently shows that lesbian, female, same-sex couples have the highest divorce rate, while gay male couples have the lowest.
>> Also, men and men should be together. That's
>> No, what I'm just saying is and and and see that's that's extreme weirdo, but that was weird. You know what I'm saying? That was super weird. But what I'm getting at is
>> I would assume I'm being fair. I would assume two women should understand each other and have a high success rate.
>> Mhm.
>> But the fact of the matter is two women can't even cohabitate.
>> Mhm.
>> Two women can't even cohabitate based on statistics, not my opinion.
>> So therefore, in order to deal with a woman, you have to be very strong,
>> right?
>> Because the expectations are very strong. And someone that don't want to accept that, they living in delusion.
>> It's just what it is. Expectations are expectations. So again, a man will meet those expectations if he understands who he is as a man. She's not.
>> The man that's a bas of responsibility is a man that never ever ever establish himself as a man.
>> Mhm.
>> That's why he avoids being a man.
>> But as a man, you have to be very conscious. You have to be very confident. You got to walk in the room and act like you own it.
>> I feel like, you know, and I remember you saying like sometimes when we read the comments, right, guys, because we come on here every week and we talking and it's what, opinion based, right? And I'm going to give my point, Q's going to give his point. Mhm.
>> I feel like a lot of times I sit and take the beating of, you know, what women don't do. I do. It's a beating. I call I call it a beating. I call it a beating of what women don't do.
>> Guys, want to shave off next what we need to do. Can we give a break, guys?
>> Well, no, no, it's not about giving a break. No sound crazy. Thank you. Thank you, Mr. Can. But every time we COME ON HERE,
>> WHEN I SAY a beating, you know what I mean? She not doing this, Jeno. Like, come on. Let's just say what it is. The way you said it sounds crazy.
>> If we all saying the same thing, Shay sounds crazy.
>> I don't care. Every time you say the whole we all saying the same thing. I'm surrounded by men. There's not a woman in here to defend me. Every time I come here, it's all men. So there's no women here to defend what I'm saying. I'm saying to you, you're going to have your opinion based on men in the comments. All the men are going to say what they feel, how they feel. He's right. He's crooked.
>> I keep telling you every single week, Shay, can you please stop reading all the comments?
>> No, I'm not talking comments. No. mentality changes every time you overly get involved in the comments.
>> K, we're not talking about
>> Stay with me. Sh. I'm just Am I Captain Dre?
>> Okay.
>> Yes or no? I promise you. She sits there and read it and read it and read it and read it and read it and it keep affecting you and it makes you emotional.
>> Mhm.
>> We're having a discussion. I do see the comments. I peek over at it, glance at it here and there, but I don't overly get involved because I know these kind of conversations are very triggering. And again, a lot of the times the advice you're getting from people, oh, I would never get a lot of those guys will never get a man like me. They will never say that.
>> They won't. And the reason being a great provider, a great father, consistent, because she's not a great submissive person. She'd rather fight a man than rather be understanding her role with a man.
>> Say that again.
>> Jordan and Pippen only work because Pippen accepted his role on a D.
Can I have some more whiskey? You know what I'm saying? Jordan accepted his, they accepted their roles. If two people don't accept the roles, it don't work.
It it can't work. But again, when you start talking like this, the ones that can't accept it are women that will never get the certain type of man. And then the sad part is the woman that's giving you, well, I would never go meet the guy that's in her bed. He's probably living under her roof and playing PS5 all day.
Playing straight PS5 all day while she's at work and driving her car. And then she's giving you advice on what a real woman would take and what a real woman would take. Can I ask you what makes you think you're such a good man and you're so valuable? Can I finish?
I'm asking you. No, I'm not. No, I'm asking you. What makes you think? Do you feel like what separates you from other so-called high-value men? What makes you feel like Q is so amazing? You bring so much value to the finish.
Sarcasm on my side. I'm asking you a question as my brother. You're my brother. You feel sorry. You don't feel like I genuinely love you. No shade in there. I smell it. I can smell it.
Why is there shade? I'm asking you a very simple question.
Okay. So, let me, let me change my tone. Let me loosen up.
What makes you? No, you cannot answer for him. I want him to answer the question.
What makes you feel? What separates you from other high-value men or men in general where you feel like to even make a statement to say a lot of these people in the comments that don't agree with you, 'cause they could never get a man like?
That's not what I said. I said there are a lot of people in the comments that when you're reading, you don't know who they are.
So therefore, you could be reading a person who is triggered because of these conversations. That's why I say Shay, I think you should stop reading.
Said some of them could never get a man like me to say that. So I'm asking you, what is?
So that means you were that means you were doing what he, what he said. And you weren't asking a question just to get the answer. You was asking the question because of a statement he said. So you were, it was, it was shade in there, like it wasn't because you love him. Now that we have now, uh, we have now understand that you're a liar. I think we should all move forward knowing that Shay, 'cause I'm now learning her name 'cause he has to keep saying it. I'm now learning that Shay is a liar. Shay, you are a liar. And, um, yeah, I wish you would fix that.
When you hear, when you hear a grown person say, "I'd rather be single," it's because they've been single for mad long. They have to accept it. There is no human on earth that don't want a great person next to them, rest.
Male or female.
Okay.
When a person talks like that, that's called a defense mechanism. That's a defense mechanism. "I, I, I rather be alone." It's because you're alone. You have to accept it. And the fact of the matter is, you're not, you, it's disingenuous. It's not truth.
Because I promise you, if the right guy came along, she would jump headfirst. And so would a man. If the right woman came along, he would go jump for joy. But in reality, people have falsified expectations of what they feel they deserve. But what makes me a good, a man is not what I say. It's what my family say. My, what my women say. It's what my mama say. The most important woman to me is my mother and my grandmother. My daughters, it's what they say. My daughters think I'm a superhero. My grandmother adores me. And my mother, my mother loves the man I am. And then my woman, she loves the man every day she sees. That's why I don't care what society says. My household says that because everything I say I do, I stand on 10 toes and I'm a man that's consistent. And the men that are like this are the men that are great leaders.
Okay.
He's not bending for, he's not, he's, come on. Go ahead.
And I also think just being a man who he's willing to put himself before others.
He's willing to, to, to take up a village and teach and give game and have a and give out a blueprint. Most of these men don't even have a blueprint. Most of these men are just bums. Let's really talk about it. They don't have nothing to share. Most men are bums.
Yes. And they had nothing to.
Say. To say most men are bums is crazy. Like, you know, most men, to say most experience. Let's say this, Stella, from our experience.
I thought she said that before. I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure like the other video she said something like that saying most about, like maybe she didn't say most men. Maybe she just said a lot of men. There you go. A lot of men.
Most of the men we've met.
Yes.
Is bums.
And they talk. And from my experience, most of the women I met, they want what they cannot, they cannot deal with.
They want certain energy, but they won't get. Like, you know, the other day, there was a lady, there was a lady in in the store. You know what she said the other day? She broke down 10 things that she thinks a good man is.
Okay.
So, I asked her respectfully, out of the 10 things you just named, how much of those 10 things do I check up for? She said like nine to 10 of them. And I said, and if I'm this great guy that you're saying and you don't listen to me, what does that mean about you? I mean, you're a whole piece of crap. If you sit here, she knows what I'm talking about, but I'm just, look, if you can give me a list of 10 things that make me such a good person, and I check off on these 10 things and you still don't listen. Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy. That means a woman has no.
I think you're very narcissistic. I think this episode has taught me that my brother is very narcissistic. I think self, I think you are really. Let's go into narcissist. Hold on. Hold on. Narcissists are entitled. Narcissists are entitled. I think you're entitled. Hold on. Watch this. Entitled. I feed everybody.
Hold on. Why are you yelling? I don't like when you get insulting and call me entitled when I feed everybody. No, Shay. That sounds crazy because now you're talking. I put my whole family first.
Okay.
Narcissists don't do that. Right now.
Have you give me, give me, give me. Hold on. She ain't going to answer this. Give me defining things. What? What's what's traits of narcissism? Like you said, I'm entitled.
You acted very.
I'm one of the hardest working men I know, Shay.
Entitled means you don't want to work for anybody. Like how we.
Entitled means you expect people to give you things, Shay.
It was the texting. It was the date thing that got the date. Entitled means you just arrogance that I'm not feeling.
That's what you. What are y'all doing? Let her make her answer the question. Listen here. Okay, mother. Answer the question. Are y'all not going to make her answer it? DON'T TALK OR EVERYBODY SILENCE. As soon as she said narcissistic, silence. Make her answer. What are the traits of narcissism? If she doesn't know, then once again, she's triggered. And when she's triggered, she says she ain't supposed to say, which means she is definitely one of these Instagram [ __ ] like or TikTok [ __ ] That's what she is. She's just not on TikTok because again.
It is, it is arrogance. It's giving. What do you mean I'm not used to confident men? I'm used. I have four brothers. I have four brothers. I have a father, a stepfather, a husband.
He's probably confident. I love the women that be having issues.
Read the first. Okay.
Well, number two, need for admiration. I think you skipped the first one though, Shay.
Inflated self-image. Check.
Shay. Arrogance so closely related is extreme.
Yo, Shay, listen to this again, Shay.
Am I reading it or listening to you?
When I said read the first one, you jumped to whatever one you wanted to.
Okay, I apologize.
Did she just do that?
Okay, she did. All the men are going to agree with you. Okay.
Oh my god.
Yo, guys, we can't be keep doing this 'cause every week this is crazy.
It is very crazy. I agree.
'Cause you bring two women. I brought a woman the other day. She still was not on your side.
What woman that wasn't on my show?
She wore a red. Last time you said.
She, she still wasn't in the green.
Stop it. Stop it. Okay. Stop it. All I'm saying is look, when you, when you, when you use the term entitled, right? Entitled means.
That you have a.
Confidence, arrogance, and and all of that. They're on the same fence.
But confidence can be measured based on where your confidence level is, right? Because if I go around, let's say Michael Jordan, Michael Jordan might sound crazy to the person ain't built at that level.
Michael Jordan, ain't nobody here any better than me. What you going to be like?
He's, he's cocky. No, he knows he's the best.
Better than you. Why should he not think like that? 'Cause you don't think like that. That's wrong. You're projecting how you feel and you want him to feel because of how you feel. That's kind of crazy, Shay.
Again, I'm very confident because I stand on what I say and I know what I do and don't do. I don't have to pretend to be who I'm not.
Mhm.
It's just what it is. And you think a a person on social media say, "Don't make or break me."
A person's opinion is irrelevant to me. The people that matter the most to me confirmed who I believe I am.
But it's not always your message. It's your delivery. Is.
Oh my god. Big screen. Who is this? Whose man's is this? She can't stop herself. This whole conversation. I'm going be honest with you. You [ __ ] pissed me off too. Y'all, y'all not going to make her answer the question. Y'all just, you going to ask her what's the traits of narcissism and then ask her to define what narcissistic is but never make her answer the question. You going just hand her the laptop so this [ __ ] can just keep saying words now that this [ __ ] look dumb. I would have said, "What's the definition? What's the traits?" Huh? I would have did it. But you know, you, I said you are really a narcissist. Oh, that's crazy. Learned a new word on TikTok. I see. Huh. Learned a new word 'cause just a minute ago, you just, you thought I didn't see this coming. [ __ ] you was calling the [ __ ] arrogant the whole time. Every word he said, he was arrogant. Everywhere. Oh man, you just started narcissistic. Okay, he's entitled. Yeah, even though you believe this [ __ ] works. You believe this [ __ ] works for. It's wild. Just wild. Shay, Shay, Shay, you that see that was that whiskey. She's been drinking. Once that, once she asked for more whiskey, I was like, "Oh no, this is not going to go well." Violence. She has a husband. If she has a husband, 'cause she said it, but he didn't challenge it. So this [ __ ] got a husband. I was like, "Okay, I got a father. I got a stepfather." First of all, let's get one thing straight. All them [ __ ] all the [ __ ] in your life, you did not like, not sexually, of course. Woo. Not sexually, but mentally. Mentally, they, they mentally, they took their finger and was like this to your brain and just, just destroyed you. You don't know what the hell you be saying. Hey, if you see this video, just understand, sister girl, I, I your brain, I despise, but your image, I do not. Your image perfectly fine. Wrinkles. You and your, your Squidward nose. It's all love over here. Now stop being [ __ ]. Just stop. Stop doing dumb.