Do What You Love Not Look For Love

Good afternoon, afternoon. A different location. I am in—I'm on the floor, actually, my bedroom, as y'all can see. My little thing behind me, that's all you sit up. So I decided to do a different background today. How are y'all?

The title of this is, "Do what you love, not look for love," and this message is for those who don't understand the meaning of the word love. So basically, hey, how y'all doing? Basically, any comments? Not seeing the comments. Okay, so y'all come in and say hi or something so I know that y'all are here and that it's still streaming. Um, love is not something that you find in another person. Love is something that you find within yourself; something you love to do; something that gives your life meaning; something that you receive joy from, and it should not be based upon another person. If y'all are commenting, I'm so sorry, the comments are not coming through. Just there it is, hey.

So stop looking for someone to fulfill a void in you that you're supposed to be filling yourself. This will clear up a lot of confusion, and you can go straight for what is important to your journey: to find something that you love doing or that fulfills you internally. Because a lot of women walk around with a big hole inside of them because they don't know what they're supposed to be doing; they don't have a purpose. They feel they're supposed to do is work, come home, take your kids, work, come home, take your kids, work, come home. Then maybe look for somebody who's gonna love them or they who they can love. That's just not how it's supposed to be. You're supposed to be having fun; you're supposed to feel creative; you're supposed to be doing something you love. Because when you do something you love, it's basically not even work, you know? If you start your own business, after you don't secure at the back, it's just fun; it's a hobby; it's something that you enjoy doing that you would probably do for free in your spare time when you were working. You know what I'm saying? So that's what you want to get to. You got to get to that before you can be happy and really enjoy this life, because you don't—you'll always be looking for something. Hey, what am I supposed to be doing? What's my purpose? Your purpose is to be creative and happy. If you can't do that, then you're never going to be living your purpose anyway. Your purpose is not putting input into a computer for a company; that's not your purpose, okay? Your purpose—it's not customer service; a robot can do that, okay, which they will be doing soon. Your purpose is not, you know, working at Sprint.

So I'm—I want to tell you guys that a lot of women are being so extra picky. Well, I can't date nobody like this, or I can't do that, or I gotta be—have this kind of feel. Are you gonna be pushing a button, and you're gonna be doing customer service, or are you gonna be working for someone who doesn't care about you, building up their life, their dream, while yours is wasting away when you could be free? Who cares if you're free, right? So it's almost kind of like trading in the illusion of what love in a relationship is supposed to be for the reality of what your life is supposed to be. So when you were a little kid, before you got interested in me, what was your dream? You know what—what did you imagine your life like? What were you doing for li—you know, go back to that, because that's your true—you know, love what you want it to do. When boys were yet, what did you want to do? So if that's still what you want to do, you should be going to do it. You know, someone said, "Be a doctor," yeah. And a lot of times when children are young, they don't know the details in which they're—you know, what they want to be includes, and sometimes it changes, you know. So if that's still what you really want to be, then go for it, okay?

Um, a lot of people kill kids' dreams because it's all those—don't make a lot of money. Well, that's—that's why you're not supposed to be doing it for money. You're supposed to go get somebody that makes a lot of money and then do what you want, okay? So, oh, you can't do that; it doesn't make enough money. Okay, well, that's why I'll marry somebody who makes a lot of money, and I'm gonna do that anyway, and sit home and make money off of that, and I'm gonna take that other person's plenty, okay? And I'm gonna find new ideas because I'm gonna have so much free time, and I'm gonna do other things as well, right? So they forgot about that. I forgot about marriage. Okay. Now, for a man, it's very different. For a man, it's different. Now, for a man, in order to free himself, he has to work on the side and build his dream up on the side of him working. You know why? Because he has extra strength; he's stronger, and he has the time. He doesn't have to worry about messing with kids, you know, all the stuff that most women do. If he—if he allows his woman to stay home, you don't have to worry about none of that. When he gets off work, he could take a hour nap and get on his other stuff at night, okay? So, and that's how a lot of men, you know, start their own companies and business and free—free themselves from, you know, corporate America or building somebody else's dream. They take that paycheck and invest it into their future business or whatever, and that's how people free themselves.

So yeah, you're not supposed to be looking for it—love. You're supposed to be looking for fulfillment. A lot of people mistake love for fulfillment, because you can be in a relationship and still not be fulfilled. You can love that person, but something is missing. You can be with the love of your life, but you still—something is missing, right? You could marry for money and have all the money in the world, but still something could be missing. You want a purpose. So give a lot of thought to what it is that you want to do and move forward in doing it. You know, don't try to start too big too fast, because that's where most people just mess up. You try to have this huge idea but no money behind it. No, start small and build up or get someone with some money and go straight into it, you know? That's what I keep telling you guys. Y'all—y'all are worried about the wrong thing. Oh, is this man gonna let me—to get a treatment? Who cares? Get security back; get your dream going, and then worry about that later, you know? So he'll love you because he sees what you're gonna do and what you're gonna create and how you're gonna do it, and you're gonna be happy within yourself. So you're not always up under him looking for validation, you know? So then he still has to chase you, and he's not the center of your attention, and he has to still work hard to keep your attention because you're building your dream and your—you have joy, and you're happy doing what you're doing, and you know you're not just sitting around a house being lazy; you're doing sup too, you know? And then when you grow passionate about something that you're doing, it shows in everything that you do. You're happier; you're less likely to snap; you don't nag people all the time because there's something missing within you, okay? So, um, thank you. So get something for yourself. Working for other people—it's not the answer. I'm telling you, you will never be truly 100% peaceful within working for someone else. As soon as they fire you, it feels like everything you've done was in vain. So as you quit, as soon as the company lays people off, everything you have done was in bed; you have nothing to show for it but a resume saying you worked this many years at this company, which doesn't matter if you got to start all over somewhere else. So start working on yourself and building yourself because no one can take that away from you, not even the man you married; they can't take it away. You know, they can take themselves away, but you gonna leave what has, and you can still have what you built.

Okay, um, so it is fun for a while to sit there and just live the life of a privileged, stay-at-home, don't-have-to-work wife, but at some time you're going to want to do something—a hobby, you know? You might go to the gym, get your nails done, get your hair done, then you—oh, this is so cute; I can make these, or—oh, I should be doing that. That's funny. You do it for free? Yeah, it's like, well, you know, I have to make money on this too, and you actually look like it, you know? There are professional shoppers; you can go shop and get paid. There are people that blog on how to put outfits together. If you're a bored housewife that doesn't have anything to do, start a fashion blog; get advertisers to pay you; you know, build your social media; do all these things—whatever you love. And this time you can make money off of anything. I—from—you can make money on telling other people—telling people how to change a diaper. That is how easy it is to make money. This is how you properly change your diaper. Make a new mommy blog—blog or whatever. This is how you do it, you know? Um, I can make money off of anything. You can make money off of reviewing—doing a video reviewing an Amazon product; that's quick. So if you like gadgets, you know, every time you buy a gadget, pop up in your computer or turn on your cell phone and make a product review and start putting it up online. Every time somebody wants to buy something and they don't—don't want to waste their money, all they do is click a product review for such-and-such. Oh, I look so silly. She texted me from school, and bam, your—your channel grows. That's so—and I'm not saying everyone should start a YouTube; find your niche. You know, if you like to read, you know, sign up to go read to kids in school and, you know, do a nonprofit organization. Just start something, and then it's a tax write-off. But anything you need to do to keep from—you know, feeling—there's something missing—it's—it's because you're missing—you're not a whole person yet until you fulfill your dreams and what you like to do, you know? Hey, so I'm just trying to tell y'all, you lost your job 20 years—now I'm working on my own business. Oh, you lost your job of 20 years? Wow. And like, right—like if you don't have a choice—like a lot of people don't have choices—you don't have a choice, and you have to make things work, you will—there's a will, there's a way. But if you could do it in comfort without worrying and stress, why not? Secure a bag first and then do whatever you need to do, right? So like I could do—I can do whatever I need to do and comfort—in comfort. I don't have to rush anywhere. Only thing I have to be on time for is picking my kids up and dropping them off; that's it. I have no other reason to look at a clock, and if I do schedule a consultation, that's it. Okay, I'm under no one's clock.

Um, thank you. So you're suggesting to be—I didn't say career; I said fulfill yourself. If you like working for other people, that is up to you. I don't work for other people; I work for myself. All profits go back up over here. Do you know what I'm saying? I don't work for anybody; I don't need anyone else's approval as long as I'm happy and the stuff that I do—I basically do for free—me, you know? I would do it for free; it wouldn't bother me to do it for free. So if you can—whatever you do—if you would do it for free, that is true happiness and doing what you like to do. Okay? So just remember that if you wouldn't do it for free, you—you'll always be working, and especially if you—even if you wouldn't do it for free, as long as you're building yourself up and not someone else, and you get all the benefits at the end of the day, you still win it, you know? And usually people who start their own business who really kind of don't like what they do, they build that business, sell it, and then get into it they really want. They use that base business to get that money to invest in what they really like, you know, or a way to make money—an easier way. So it's bait; it's steps; it's a step, you know, a step going up each time, or you can have multiple students—income—something—whatever. Yeah, whatever you like doing. And here's things—so many people today have no skills, or they don't even know their talents because they've been trained to work for other people. Some people don't even know their talents, right? And plus—and then we grew up in the age where I didn't, but a lot of young people grew up in the age of video games, cell phones, technology, so they never took any type of art class; they never took any type of acting class unless it was in high school; they took it as an elective; they never, you know, did any type of extracurricular activities outside of what was, you know, demanded in school. So they have no idea what they're capable of. Like my kids wanted to buy these 3D puzzles yesterday, and like those—look—those look very challenging. You sure you can do it? This is easy. They could not put that 3D puzzle together to save their lives. I even told Leila I would buy her iPhone X so she could put it together. She gave it within five minutes—within five minutes—she—they put them—like, yeah, y'all have a zero attention span; y'all can't put together a little 3D puzzle even though I offered you the iPhone X, you still couldn't do it. You have no skills. I told my kids they have no skills. I think we're gonna take an hour every day, and I'm gonna make y'all do some type of skilled activity where you have to have skills, because what are you gonna do? You know, you gotta have some type of skill. I don't care if everything is going to be online and digital; you still need to shine offline; that's my thing, okay? Um, just in case, you know what I'm saying? So Shira, do a good work from Purdue. I know a good work-from-home job. Yeah, stay at home and don't work; let the man work. Um, start your own business; don't work for other people; don't work for other people. I'm saying start your own business; stay at your job until you figure out what you can do on your own. Contract yourself out if you're really good at something; become a free agent and contract yourself out, you know? That's—that's how you can start and then build from there. Hey, cutie, y'all like my record player? I wanted—I said when I was a kid, and I loved—this is what I used to do when I was a kid—exactly what—look—I look like I'm a little kid. I'm sitting on the floor; I got my record player; my Michael Jackson, MJ record back there. This is exactly what I was doing as a kid before I had to work for anybody, and I'm doing it right now once again, but I'm talking to you, and I'm telling you guys that you can be doing the same thing. I got my cat, Thank You T. I went back in time. Look at Bellevue Velveeta. Want snacks? Snacks? Okay, they'll be the snacks. So make sure—all right, you know? And when I was a kid sitting on the ground listening to my little records, I was not thinking about, am I gonna find love? If that man gonna love me and pay attention to me and hold my head and tell me I'm beautiful? No, I was thinking about nothing but this—oh, this is the greatest thing ever, you know? And I fur my lips now, but the whole point is, I wouldn't think about no—me, and I was just thinking about the moment and the joy that I was having as a child, not having to work for people and not having to, you know, have a care in the world, and that's exactly what I'm doing right now, except I'm talking to y'all, and um, my cat says a little—here, but not that too much. Thank You T. What's up on lip gloss and hair gets stuck in this gloss? Mm-hmm. Um, someone asked me if I catch it here. Yay. So what is your viewpoint—a long distance? I don't—long-distance relationships aren't real relationships, okay? They're not real. You might as well be in a relationship with an imaginary friend. They're not real. I don't like them because they're not real. Men need to have a woman right here, right now, that he can touch. Are you gonna be touching on something else? I can't understand why y'all women don't realize that men need a physical woman, okay? There is—you—you're in a relationship with a man in a relationship with somebody else who's telling you he's in a relationship with you long distance; that's what you are. So stop asking me about these stupid long-distance relationships. Those are—those type of relationships people would lie about in high school. Oh, my boyfriend goes to this school, knowing—I know—man, those are fake relationships; I call them so. No, don't believe in them; stop asking me about this. Last time I answer any questions about a long-distance relationship. That's the same thing as having a loan—being—having a long-distance job. Do you—you go to work every day? No. Mm-hmm. You gonna get on a plane and fly to work every day? Now, can you work remote? Sure, you work remote; that's fine, which—but you're not gonna see those people every day; you're not gonna connect with them; you're not gonna touch them; you're not gonna smell how they smell, and when it's time to go have some real company, you're not—you know, you're gonna go find real people. Okay? Okay, I'm giving advice in psychology. I like giving advice in psychology. How can I turn that into a business? Um, be a contractor for soap—or soap—be a contracted social worker. Okay, I—I have a friend that went to school, and she has a psychology degree, and that's what she does. It's her own clients at her own time at her own pace, or you could write a book. Can I—can I give advice? If you can get married and you think somebody will take care of yours, you can find a sugar daddy to do what you gotta do—whoever. If you can find someone to take care of you and you can fulfill your dreams while doing that, great. If you have to work and do like a man and you don't have kids yet—working the day, come home at night, work on your dreams at night, and do that too. You know what I'm saying? If there's a will, there's a way. Anybody can do whatever they choose to do; there's a will, there's a way. You just have to sacrifice some things, especially as a woman. A woman always has to sacrifice way more than—no men complain about sacrificing so much, but they don't have to sacrifice anything compared to a woman. So women sacrificed a lot more because they have children; they—some of them work and didn't have to deal with a man who they're not sure he wants to be there or it's being to them; then they have to deal with starting their own business and trying to do whatever they want; then they have to deal with all these things all at the same time. So it's very difficult. So there is going to be some type of sacrifice. And if you're a single person with no kids, you have it easy; you should already be there by now. You know what I'm saying? If you're a woman and you have kids and you're single—Amber Alert—okay, I should turn those things on. Okay. Um, if you don't have anything attached to you that depends on you, you should already have your own business or finding it or exploring. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Shira, hair extensions literally changed my life. Good for you, Samantha. Okay, how do you tell a guy who wants to take you for coffee on the first day? What do you tell a guy? I would tell him, "I'll meet you there," and I would never show up, and then when he called—oh my gosh, I totally forgot someone invited me to lunch. You know, it's actually hungry, so I went—you know, rain check. It was just coffee; I would never meet anybody for coffee unless they owned the coffee shop. How about that? Okay, or if it was after lunch—don't go on coffee dates; this is cheap. Um, your boyfriend wants to live with you but he doesn't want to get married. I don't want to leave empty-handed again. First of all, you should be living with your boyfriend, not him living with you; that's number one. He has to move in with you; that's a dusty. Number two, if he wants to live with you and he doesn't want to marry you, he needs to give you a bunch of money first. Off—don't even move it to your house. Well, I'm gonna need this much money—the amount of a wedding ring or an engagement ring; that's what you need. Okay? That way you don't leave it to him. If he—if he wants to move in and doesn't want to promise you anything and doesn't give you some money, then he's the bump, unless he's getting ready to pay every single bill, then—help let them move in and save your money and do what you need to do. You still will win, but if he moves in, don't you pay one—you—okay? If he moves into that apartment, all bills are need to be transferred into his name, and he needs to be paying all of them. Okay? Okay. Um, Shira, what do you think of business situation? I don't even know what that situation is. Sure. Have you ever had a loss of appetite while on a spiritual journey? Uh, no, I had an increase in appetite. I had an increase. Okay. Your husband is a dusty; what can you do? Um, well, you can do—always get a divorce unless he's paying for some—girls—like here's my thing—you can't live without him; you can't survive without him. Like if he's paying half of something and you know you can't survive without him, then you need to stay until you figure out how you can survive without him or replace him—level up—exactly—then be gone. But some—all these women always coming in—my husband—if they will leave—well, I can't because I—a decent—well, then you and dusty too. So either level up and get your stuff together first, and he may follow suit. He may be like, well, if she's doing this, I gotta do this; he may level up just because you're leveling up. You know what I'm saying? If he can't keep up with you and you've leveled up and you can get a better man, or you could—or you're earning more money, or you're able to do for yourself and you don't need him anymore, then you can bounce. But if you are in a situation where you need him, then he's not really a dusty if you need him. You know what I'm saying? So hopefully you don't need him, and if you do, then y'all—you need to look in the mirror to—you know—save up your money; get your stuff together; don't talk about leaving; just be gone one day when you get on—you can—you're good. You know, most people want to talk about everything—is—there's less talk; there should be more action and less honker. Mm-hmm. You went on a nice date Saturday. What's a Cirque du Soleil and had dinner? He's trying to get sex already. Sugar daddy? Know me and always wants sex. What do you think—they're supposed to do that—that's how you get more money when they want it, huh? Maybe next time, then you're gonna try and press you more. I didn't mean to be rude by saying you're a dusty—I'm just saying if you can't leave him right now on your own, then you might need to dust off a little bit—look—get yourself together first, all right? Mm-hmm. Oh, we have the—we have the jobless here today. Hey, jobless—jobless—oh, well, more views for me anyway. Yeah, if he's paying all the bills, he's not that dusty. If he can't buy a Louis Vuitton or something, you just should have got someone that had real money—not just pay-to-rent money. You know what I'm saying? A lot of people just go get sugar daddies on the side. Whatever you do to make you—yourself feel better—to do it. I'm serious. A lot of women realized, oh, my man will never be able to do these things for me, yet he's paying on the bills. If that's what you truly want in your heart and you think you deserve it, you look good enough to go get it from another man, then why wouldn't you? Mm-hmm. Obie Smith has Alzheimer's—wasting away and has moved in a younger white woman—hurt in his home—in her home, and I think she may have been a pick-me—think—[Applause] I don't really care—like they got Alzheimer's; they don't remember anyway. Secure yourself; have some kids—this con—secure you and secure yourself. There you go. Ah, what about when there's children involved? You make it seem so easy. Well, you want your children to grow up a certain way, but here's my thing—I have so many women who did grow up in a household that where the dad was a dusty, and they say, "I wish my mom would have left my dad; he was a dusty." So there you go. Ask some—ask some of these ladies in here—whoo—whoo—what a dusty father, and ask them—don't ask me because the whole point is, what do you want? Okay? Your kids are gonna follow you. What—dusty daddy can't do much anyway. Okay. How do you feel about the government now? Hasn't affected me one bit. I don't feel any type of way because it has not affected me because I don't work for the government—not about to fly anywhere; I'm already married, so I don't need to wait on a marriage license—as an effect—that mean—one big arms—I feel like the government shutdown is kind of waking people up—like they're trying to downsize the government—make—forcing people to quit—go find new jobs and so they can't collect unemployment. That's a smart business decision. Donald Trump is a businessman; he knows what to do. I know what to do. You know, business is business; you don't care. He wants to downsize the government—force people to quit so he doesn't have to pay them unemployment, and they're gonna have another job, and then when he reopens the government, it's gonna be a lot less; there's gonna have more money, and that's—that's exactly what they're doing. That's—they do that at every business, and they don't want—when they want to downsize, they talk along with a layoff—"We don't have enough money," or, you know, "We cut the hours," and they force you to quit. They don't have the—that was sleeping—any any person would see that, but he's a businessman; he is not a politician. I keep telling you, he—he run in the country just like it is—it's a corporation. He's running the country like a corporation—even—he even messed up and said, "This company"—I mean, "this country"—it's the company. Okay? And he's tired of paying people that he don't need. It's a big layoff, okay? So when it—when—when the skeleton crew—is what I'm gonna call it—when the skeleton crew is in place and all the unnecessary people have quit—moved on and found other jobs—is gonna hold them back up. Yes, you probably gotta pay your taxes unless somebody gets real upset and hacks the whole thing, which I need them to do—y'all in the IRS anyway. Um, the government paid—the government shutdown was affecting its pay; they better get a new way to get some money. You want to be a doctor now? I wanna do whatever you want to do. You don't even know what you want to do; that's the nice key—number one, you need to figure out what you want and go for it wholeheartedly, but be responsible with it. Okay? No one can tell you what you want—what you're supposed to be doing. You know—you only know that if you—if you can't—

Figure out what you want to be doing, and you need someone to tell you what you're going to be doing? Then you don't know what I think about Disney movies. Um, to aspire for love from a young age? Well, I think those Disney movies were created a long time ago, and now the modern Disney movies are teaching actually the total opposite; where you have to work together, or the woman will save the day.

Mm-hmm. Just show them the newer ones. But that's going to teach him to be Bob the Builder. Show him Bolt, looking to decide what they want shown. Beauty and the Beast; that's the best one. Beauty and the Beast. She's the best of both worlds; she's independent, she's smart, but she went and got that beast to take care of him and became a queen, and she ran the show. He didn't run nothing at Beauty and the Beast. Anyway, I don't suggest any business for women. I suggest doing what you love. If you love to do something, find a way to make money from it; that's what I suggest. You know, people are so far away from what they truly want to do, what their true passions are, they don't even know anymore. They have to ask other people what they should be doing. So ask yourself, what do you love to do? And then go from there. Figure out how to get paid from it.

Like, um, Sasha's friend's mom, she's a stay-at-home mom. She lives behind us, and her dad—I mean, her mom—Sasha's friend's dad owns a car dealership, right? And so his mom stays home all day; she don't do anything, but she loves to bake. This lady loves to bake, right? And she bakes cookies and all these types of pastries and stuff, and she sells them to like all the people in the neighborhood on Facebook, her friends on Facebook. In there, like, will fancy, and she puts them on like beautiful trays and sets them up in designs and stuff, and then she sells them. And like people that have their own businesses or bring them; they bring them to like meetings and birthday parties and all that stuff, and she just stays at home and makes cookies once a week, and she gets paid a lot of money off of that. And um, she doesn't really do anything but make some cookies because she loves to bake. And she says she used to do that all the time, and she would give it away, and then her friend told her, "Well, you should charge for this," and she's like, "Okay." So if she loved to bake, if she was giving it for free, you know, she's not—the word I heard that—I mean, her, um, her husband owns a car dealership; she ain't got to worry about anything. She just liked to bake, and so she makes money off of it. Um, that's it. You know, she stayed home; she has three kids, one in junior high, one in elementary, and then like a two-year-old baby, and they're all girls. And that's what she chooses to do with her free time while they're at school or in daycare, or her baby's walking around the house; it's baked, and she makes money. You know, she charges like 35 dollars per tray, and she says she gets a couple of orders a week, and I said, "Have you ever thought about getting more?" And she's like, "No, I have a little baby, but when she grows up, I'm probably going to." So her business is slowly being built, and by the time the little baby gets, um, you know, into elementary or, you know, junior high, that lady is probably going to have half a bakery with clients waiting to buy because she's starting it now. Um, she may even get some type of deal to put her stuff in a grocery store; we don't know. So that's where it all starts; you know, just do what you love, take your time, don't try to rush success. It's not rushed; it's supposed to be enjoyed, you know? Because she didn't stay home with her baby; she can go pick up her kids from school, she can make a couple of trays here and there, and she's not stressed or anything. She's—because that's her de-stressor is baking. Great. So and she's getting paid to de-stress. You see how that works? So by the time, like I said, her other kids get older and the baby gets into school, she'll have so many clients and customers; she'll be able to, you know, start her own bakery or have five times the business. So just make sure you're doing something you love. There's no right answer for everybody. You have to do what you truly love, okay? Not what somebody else loves, but what do you—what de-stresses you, right? You used to pay 50/50 with your husband. How do I take back—I had a baby and cannot afford to—just quit your job. And I can't make him do it. What's he gonna do? Not pay me? Um, so she's rolling in the dough, literally.

Uh-huh. That's right. UFO kamikaze. So mm-hmm. Make sure you figure out what you love to do, even guys, you know, then find a way to do it. You know, more men pursue their passions than women, and women are really creative, and when women pursue their passions, they're usually very successful. So um, men do it, you know, "Oh, I want to start my own business. Oh, I want to make an album, or all I want to, you know, invest in this, and I want to do that, or I want to learn how to do this, or I want to build websites on the side," you know, men do it all the time. There's no reason why you can't do it, and do something that you don't have to go get qualified for or go to school for right away. Do something that you can do on your own, your own basic skill that you have within already, because everything you need is inside you already. You know, you quit your job and basically force your husband to provide good for you. See, that's what he's supposed to be doing anyway. Go thrifting and sell online. Exactly. Shoot, you can show up; you can sell on Toppockmark, eBay. Go to all the thrift shops or Goodwills or whatever and find like name-brand clothes and then clean them up, wash them up, and start you a business online. She found—I thought I don't—I did that for a second, but I don't like shipping out stuff, but I used to find like expensive brands worth, you know, hundreds of dollars. Found a nine-hundred-dollar jacket, found just four-hundred-dollar toys; it's just crazy. You can find a lot of stuff; all you got to do is look it up on eBay or or whatever. I can find it. So there's a million businesses that you can do if you just stop for a second to think about what you truly love.

Mm-hmm. You have to pay for an Etsy store, yeah, but once you make a certain amount of sales, then it's free. You only just pay a little bit of charges. So if you make a lot of sales on Etsy, you get it up; don't give it to you for your—you can do Wix. Wix is free; you build your own website. Mm-hmm. Its meaning for drinks? Okay, is it like if you want—if you want to be cheap, meet for drinks? I'm worth more than drinks, especially the old iffy all and you meeting for drinks; you're just eye candy—bill for a restaurant. Oh, you get to be seen with the young woman only for the price of drinks. Wonderful. I don't think so. No, I'm not meeting anybody for drinks and listen, unless it's at a five-star restaurant. Okay. Mm-hmm. You have a test for a university tomorrow. Absolutely no motivation. There are people—I—you keep telling me about your school; I don't care about school. Okay, I really don't care about school. Do what you want to do. You know, I have two degrees; I don't use any of them. So you know, if you—if you need to stay in school because you're not a hundred percent leveled up or you can't get a man to take full care of you, stay in school, and maybe you won't have to use your degree either if you find one, but get your degree. You're already in there; get it. Start with a professor. I don't know how to do something right. So working as a part-time receptionist will help or not. Lying to say that's what you do? Yes, yeah. Degrees don't guarantee success, like I said, unless you're going for it to be a medical doctor, dentist, you know, stuff that you actually need degrees for. Like, you want someone with a degree who's gonna be your doctor, yes, but anything else, unless you need a degree, don't do it; don't worry about it.

Mm-hmm. Big Cartel is free, okay, instead of Etsy. Mm-hmm. So do you even have—need a degree to be a life coach? You know, you could just say, "I'm a life coach." You need some coaching, but you gotta have experience, and you have to have a life; someone wants that. That's part of it. You can't be a life coach with your life is messed up. All right. Um, a lot of these life—I want—I wouldn't even call myself a life coach, okay, but a lot of these so-called life coaches, life sucks, you know? And most people wouldn't trade places with them. So unless people want to trade places with you or you have something to give advice on, you shouldn't try to be a life coach if your life ain't together. You know. Mm-hmm. So what's your advice on where to start? You're an experiment—aspiring makeup artist, and they'll take—and want to make money. Anybody will start a YouTube channel, start an Instagram; it's all on social media now. You have to be on social media if you want to make the big money and have clients from everywhere. You know, you can make money doing nails and makeup on yourself on YouTube, on Instagram. You have to build it up; it's not overnight. You can't, you know, make cards and do freelance work for like weddings and stuff in your—in your local area, but you're gonna have to get on social media to make real money.

Mm-hmm. What do you do for guys—on a date—late for a date? I'll be gone. I told him when he was on the way the date was postponed. He said—if a man really wants to meet you, he'll be on time. I'll be—you know, I would either leave, or if it was at a place with a bar, I'd be sitting at the bar talking to other men, like, "Hey," and when he shows up, I'm gonna pretend like I don't know who he is. Oh, meet—meet Andy. Andy was just talking about, you know, that—now you wanted a wedding. Any get that pool. Um, let's see. All seeking arrangement. Okay. So you're—this advice is applicable once you secure the base. Um, you can do whatever you want; that's the point. Like, too many—okay, and I don't mean to be rude, but too many of you guys don't think for yourselves, and it's a habit of working for other people so long, you don't think for yourselves; you just follow instructions. Think for yourself, okay? What do you like to do, and go do it. That's it. Even if it fails, at least you enjoy doing it, and you can figure out what you want to do next. You'll know. How I started off when I was—I was married for like two years. I got bored; I started making soap. Sold my soap. Got bored of making soap. Oh, okay. Oh, that was fun. Then I started doing other things, and everything grew from being creative. You have to start somewhere, even if it doesn't work. I made money soon, but that wasn't what—what I was going to be highly successful at. Um, you know, I made other stuff; I made jewelry, I made pendulums. I started buying wholesale stuff and selling it on Etsy. I started getting into spiritual—spiritual videos, and I started making spiritual videos and then relationship videos, and it's all started from making soap from a kit at Michaels. That's it. Just start somewhere. I don't matter where you start; just start somewhere. You don't have to make a million dollars off your first idea; you have to make a thousand dollars off it, just to get started, you know, see that you have the potential to make money on your own. Okay, wholesale stuff. Okay, so—so you can't make—so what—maybe you can make hair products to start off with. Okay, great. We know that's already a saturated industry, but if you can't—if you can figure out how to make it work for you, then great. You're not gonna stay there; you can take the money that you make in that and invest it into something else and buy some more stuff until you really find your niche, you know? So um, nose drop shipping is very popular right now, and a lot of people are doing it, and they're selling products that they love. You know, if you're a makeup person, you can—you can start you a Shopify store, an Etsy store, a Big Cartel store, like you said, and have products on there that dropship, and then you could use those products on, let's say, Instagram or Facebook or in a tutorial or video and build clients and all that kind of stuff. You can do that; you know, it's so easy. If you're gonna be on Facebook all day long—this is my mom told me, 'cause I used to be addicted to Facebook a long time ago—you always—don't lie. If everyone that you knew gave you a dollar, you'd be rich. You need to be getting paid. You're online five hours, 10 hours a day. Exactly. If you're gonna be online, you need to be getting paid. Okay? So if you spend more time online than you do with your kids, if you spend more time online than you do with real people, why aren't you getting paid?

Mm-hmm. You own there anyway; you might as well be getting paid. So yeah, online apothecary, perfect. Spiritual businesses, relationship businesses, write books, ebooks. Get you some wholesale items and start drop shipping. You can do that even on Poshmark, which is free. I think they charge you a little—a little bit of what you earn in the sale, but you don't fork out anything. So just start somewhere and clean—you call and open a Poshmark story; that will start you. Thank you, Danny West. I worked at Hooters. Your final goal is to get a sugar daddy to pay good for you. Um, any tips? Be nice to one special customer. You find the one that drives a nicest car and be extra nice to them. Let them come to you; don't give him your phone number, but—and then, like, looks—that one day he's a cool—what's getting regular? You gotta have a regular. Get you a regular. Be happy, happy, happy. Then one day be sad. That's how you—"Oh, what's wrong with you today? You're usually cheery and happy." Okay? That's how you get them. You—you have to be consistent. Get you a regular client that's always coming into Hooters. Be happy, happy, happy. Then all of a sudden one day they say—so he will be like, "Oh, how can I help?" And then say, "Well, I can't really talk about it too much right now, but you know, I'll write my number down, and you know, maybe we can talk about it later." And this way you're on a first-name basis. Is he weird? He's a client; he's a repeat customer; you know, y'all are cool. So I'll get you a regular. You see the point? Once you spot the regulars, make one of them your best friend. There you go. All right, thank you. So just start taking advantage of the—the internet because it's so—so easy to make money; it's ridiculous how easy it is to make money if you have time to think. Most people don't have time to think because they're too busy rushing to get somewhere on time, too busy rushing to work for someone else, or tired of working and one just relaxed; they don't have time to think. So I think for you because I'm free. Think for yourselves. It's something that they train you not to do; that's why you have to ask everybody else, "What should I be doing?" Because you don't even know, and that's the bad thing about it. Most people just want to work for somebody else 'cause it's easy; you just show up, do the work you're told, and go home. Those jobs aren't very secure, and you'll never be happy doing them. Just think, if you could get paid for something you love to do, you would never work a day in your life. You would never work. Okay? And that's a—that's the same—you'd never work a day in your life if you do—if you love what you do. So, and even if you are working, you're enjoying it, and you're still getting paid to enjoy yourself; that's the crazy thing, right? But first, you need a vacation; you need to be kicked—you need to take some time off; you need to save up your money. If you don't have any prospects, you know, even if you're single and don't want a man to take care of you, you need to save, save, save so that you can take off; have all your bills paid for about six months; find a way to make income. And you know, if you need to go back to work 'cause you didn't, you know, find your niche, go back and do it again until you find your way because that versus something else, you know, one is gonna pay off, and one is not.

Mm-hmm. So one will pay off, the other one won't. You'll just work, work, work and get paycheck after paycheck, but the other one may pay up, and then like we get all—and you try to—working—you can sell your business for a big amount of money; you can sell it or franchise it and then sell it, you know, and just be out and maybe invest in something that's gonna make a lot of money, well, you don't even have to do anything but check your email. Okay? So start with baby steps; the point is start somewhere.

Mm-hmm. You don't need to build your confidence; you should already have it. Okay? It's not something that you can build; it's something within that you decide that you're going to realize. You know, it's like if somebody has to tell you that you're special and you're this—you just need validation. You need validation because you don't know who you are. You don't know who you are because nobody told you. Nobody told you. Great. Go look for yourself; that's what you got to do. You got to go look for yourself. Go find out who you are. Go—then go find yourself, and you—you won't need any confidence because you'll—it's already within you; you don't even know it, but you got to figure it out. Um, no one is gonna tell you you're special; you have to figure that out yourself. I know I'm special; nobody got to tell me. And yeah, they might make jokes on here, "Yours, you're special," but at least I'm special. I knew—I knew—one name—exactly what I was going to be doing. I said, "I'm gonna be doing this, I'm gonna be doing that, I'm gonna be doing that." I don't know how I'm gonna pay to do it; I would do it for free, so it doesn't really matter. So that's what I really wanted, and I—and I'm—I got to do it. Life dreams already came true; done. So that's why I want other people to realize their life dreams. Um, I could have been bigger, yeah, but I'm happy. So as long as you're happy and free, that's all that really matters. Mine will be bigger; I have bigger dreams to conquer because I've already conquered the dreams that I had as a, you know, twenty-year-old or a teenager. Now that I'm grown, I have new dreams and new goals that I need to create, but once you surpassed the old stuff, you got to make new stuff. So that's the mode that I'm in right now, trying to figure out the next step, but it's not necessary because I'm already fulfilled right now. You see? But growth—growth is also important because what fulfills you today may not be fulfilling tomorrow because you are growing. So that's why you always have to be looking for the next thing while enjoying this, but still look into the future about, well, "What else? What do I find interesting?" I always find new interests, you know, "Oh, that's interesting; maybe I'll look over here," and you know, see if I like doing that. So leveling up is also a mental—mental, physical, and you know, even spiritual because if you're not happy and you're not vibrating in your joy, you might have this man taking care of all your bills; you might have every, you know, article of clothing and, you know, purse and shoes that you want, and you might have, you know, money in your bank account, but what are you doing to fulfill yourself? You know, you can't shop all the time 'cause then you'll just have a bunch of junk sitting around your house, but you got to get rid of anyway to bring more junk in. So once you get through with that cycle, Daniel wants to start to do something like the lady that lives behind us, Sasha's friend's mom, you know, her—her husband owns a car dealership, you know, she got me, but she—in their house baking cookies because she already has everything. Okay? So once you get everything, then you—then you understand it's not really about the actual having of the money; it's the freedom it brings for you to do what you want to do. She lives in a nice home, you know, huge, very nice; that stuff doesn't matter. She was—she chooses to do—she shops all—she has really nice clothes, shoes, jewelry, but she has it all. So now is she—be—goals and bakes cookies; that's fun for her because she didn't have to do it; she wants to do it. There's a difference. Um, but she does have her nice things, so it gives you the freedom and the ability to be almost challenged in—sorry—because you have the money to do it. You know, a lot of people will go on vacation, but when you raise kids and they're at school, you know, you can—you get away when you can't. But this is the moment where she has to do something to fulfill herself. So um, my passions are just being who I am, sharing, giving advice. Um, I like—I also like reading; I love researching, and I read—I research other channels. I share what I learned; that's basically it. I just read and share what I learned, or I—I feel something, I know something, and I interpret things; I decode things, and then I share what I learn. That's it. Um, on here, I share what I learned on how to get what you want in life. It's the same thing. I got—my passion was—and my kids—it's my passion; still is my kids. My other passion is helping other people get to where they want to be, realizing who they are, you know, giving information, absorbing information, and giving information; helping other people get where you want to get because you see so many unhappy people, and you know—why aren't they happy? If you—if you see people that are unhappy and you know why they're unhappy and you hold the answers, it brings you joy to see them get that smile on their face when they get what they want, you know? So I've helped a lot of ladies get out of whatever they were in and become the person they were supposed to be.

Hey—do you think I can turn my Instagram to a business? I love that. Yeah. Um, you can—you—yeah, you sure can. You don't have to be an Instagram model; you could just use your hands and show products. There are Instagram businesses that don't include Instagram models.

Mm-hmm. So right. Thank you. Ether—ether says she restores women to all their natural positions. That's been a—right. Well, the role of a feminine woman is to create. Okay? It's to create and fulfill herself. By fulfilling yourself, you're happy; by being happy, your kids are happy, and you have time to give them. By being happy, if you're married, your husband's happy because you ain't nagging him, you know? There's no pressure there, and he's happy to give if you're happy to receive. Okay? So now a lot of people will take advantage of this situation and, you know, receive and not be happy because they don't have anything for themselves, which is exactly why I tell women, "Start your own thing." I don't even care if it's a hobby; let it start off as a hobby. Even if you're not getting paid for it, get you a hobby. If you start taking an art class or a digital class online on how to do this and this and that, whatever you're interested in, whatever makes you feel happy, do that, even if he has to pay for it and you're just figuring out if you enjoy doing it. You may not even know what you enjoy because you don't have enough things—you never tried enough things as a child, right? Maybe you're creative; maybe you can—someone says flip-flops. Yeah, that just gave me an idea right there, you know? Summer's coming up; you can go get you some of those cheap flip-flops from Michaels or, you know, the Dollar Tree. Get you some jewels and bejeweled them up with some E6000 glue and sell them on Etsy. There you go. Sell them on Instagram or—or a YouTuber and have them wear them and say, "Oh, that's where I got these from," Cinema Link, BAM! You paid. Okay? Think smart, okay? Don't think basic. Um, don't think basic; think smart. Basic people get basic money. I remember I used to make cell phone cases with bling on them and sell them on Etsy just for fun because I like being creative. I'm—I'm gonna already—instead—heart—and I—I started off doing my own phone cases; I decorate it, you know, other people's phone cases, and that's okay. I can make me off this, but then they came out with those phone cases that were manufactured, so it was a waste of my time. But that's why you always have to keep growing because as soon as you create something, a machine is gonna be able to create it in about two or three years. So hurry up and keep it moving to the next unless you do custom work. Your sprint—started making sunglasses, and now I'm her number one customer. See ya. You can get very creative. Um, you can take old thrift clothes and turn them into new things with—you know, if you know—if you're good at fashion and so—it just depends on what you want to do. You know, you can even make these cups; you can—a lot of people I've seen on Etsy, they take cups like this; they go buy some cheap Dollar Tree cups or something, and then they bling them out or something like that, and they sell them for like 30 bucks. So—and they—they order the crystals or wherever they used to bling it out with, like wholesale from China for like two dollars, and then they make 30 dollars on a cup. So be creative. From it—that might—that might not be your key to success, but it'll give you some money to start investing in something else.

Yeah, right. So never chase the—of course, never—so secure your back; get your comfort; find your passion, or sacrifice—find your passion and start your own. But you will never be truly happy if you're rushing to work for somebody else. I promise you. Men is a different story because men identify with their career and their position to be able to provide for a woman. Now, if a man can start his own business, he identifies with that as well, but it doesn't bother men as much to work for other people as long as they have a high position and they're proud and they're able to provide for their family. But most men would like to work on their own, which is fine. Some are perfectly happy being in the corporate world; some are perfectly happy having a trade or a skill as long as they are able to provide. That doesn't matter. What matters is if whatever he's doing for you—totally—can you create from that freedom that he's allowing you? That's the true test of a feminine woman; if you can cope—if you can create from that freedom that he allows you, and you get paid, that is what separates you from being masculine. Okay? So right. That's all I'm saying. Um, you know that old saying, "You bring a woman something, she will multiply it"? That's true. That's true because they're creative; they know how to multiply stuff, but they're creating, but it takes—it takes a while for that woman to find her niche, but she needs to be—

Looking for it or actively figuring it out? You know, some women don't do that. And they, they—that's when you know how to say an idle mind is the devil's playground. That's—and they start trying to cheat, even though they have everything. Oh well. And you know, and I'm talking about most women who don't have anything to do but sit in the house all day, like me. I could be cheating, right? Yeah, but for what? You know, I enjoy what I do, so I'm fulfilled. I don't feel I need to be validated by someone else besides, you know, my husband and my kids. But if I didn't have what I wanted—hey, thank you, parents, for the donors—if I, if I didn't fulfill, if I didn't feel fulfilled within, and my husband gives me everything I want, and oh, there's something missing, I'm gonna go look for it in other people. See what I'm saying? So that's why it's so important: if you are in a good relationship, that your man is fully provided for you, and you're good with him, and you need to figure out how you can make yourself good with yourself. Now, if your man mess up—don't know—your man mess it up, do what you want to do. But if he's good and he ain't doing nothing wrong, and and you're just bored, it's because you're not fulfilled within. You need to find something, whether it be decorating your house, um, start a Pinterest, you take pictures of all the stuff that you have and organize it, and get some type of hobby. I don't know, I got Pinterest; I got every type of thing that there is. You know, I have a Pinterest, Poshmark, Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, a cat—three YouTube channels. Come on now, that is my job. I get paid off all of that. I make more than I could make if I went to any job, just by having fun. I make more than any—I could make—I make more than I could make working two jobs with my two degrees, 12 hours a day, doing what I love to do. Why? Because I figured out how to do it, and it was easy. You just have to enjoy your freedom, yet find a way to do what you love and find people that will be willing to support you in what you do. That's basically [Music].

So look at that up. Have you all seen that lady on Facebook, designing on a dime or something? Oh, you know, she used to do—she just went bought some stuff from Dollar Tree and made videos on it and made crafts from Dollar Tree. Now she's making a lot of money. Okay, this lady used to shop at Dollar Tree, but she still does—in organized people's pantry with Dollar Tree stuff, and she gets paid a lot. That's it. You know, you do it on a dime. Ya see? Take what you already have and make it work for you. Um, you like how my voice changes when I get donations? Oh, thank you so much. But yeah, I like her a little—um, I've done a few of her little Dollar Tree crafts myself. They were fun. That's her niche, you know. Um, and y'all don't forget that celebrities watch YouTube. They may not say anything; they may not comment; they might be under an alias, but y'all, y'all don't forget that celebrities are watching YouTube. Okay? You might get discovered; you might get a client under an alias name buying your stuff, then next thing you know, it's on a red carpet. You don't know—a stylist who works for a celebrity might buy your crap and put it on Beyoncé's arm, and next thing you know, the AUSA is wearing your stuff. You don't know, Frank. So just find your niche, find what makes you happy. Stop looking for it in another person. That's my message: stop looking for your happiness in a man. He can have all the money in the world, he's saying, "I'll make you happy." You need to find it within. You know, your kids and yourself are gonna make you happy, then your kids are gonna grow up, and then all you're gonna have is yourself. Okay? When your kids get grown and want to be a teenager and, you know, be their own person, then all you have left is yourself. If you spend all your life looking outside of yourself, worried about your kids and not doing something to build yourself up and make yourself whole, you're gonna be a miserable old woman—miserable. And then when your kids leave the nest, you gonna be sitting in there or looking at your husband, if he's still there, and still feel unfulfilled, even though you lived a full life. That's why you have to start doing something on your own. I don't even care if you make 'em cat—max—you gotta give—you a cat lady over there—figure out—make a rhythm—make some cat snacks—put them people of cast—they won't—you will be rich. Make a cat snack. I don't know, make some dog biscuits. I don't know, get paid. Okay? That's as simple as it gets. Okay? They sell dog bone cookie cutters, and you can go on Google and find a dog biscuit recipe and throw extra—pitches—something in it and call it your own and sell that stuff on—it's the all day for dogs—fruit—fruit dog treats—go to dog grooming shops and have a cute little presentation. Silly, you—you want to sell my dog products? You know all my customers love these. The one about—go to pick mark peddler—can I talk to your manager about filling my stuff in your store? Go do that kind of stuff, you know? And look, you smell good, and they'll say, "Yeah, sure," especially the man.

So thank you. And vice on dating very rich but very insecure, needy man—um, don't worry about his insecurities or his needs. Do you give—give some money. You know, if he, if he's insecure and needy, it means he's not fulfilled within; he's looking for it. And you get in and get out. What if you have family members who are nowhere near successful and they try to drain you of yours? Get away from a baby—get away. If you can't—if you stay around unsuccessful people that dream—that's your fault. Okay? You are—if you're grown and you can get away—get away. This look suits me. What is the exact difference between Bob the Builder's wife versus having a passion? You don't spend any of your own money; you keep all your money. Your bank account is huge. That's the difference. Okay? You don't pay any bills; all your money goes for you and your future or your children's future—whoever you want to say that for—goes back into your business. Your man takes care of everything. You and whatever you do goes back into you, unless you choose to give it away. You know? So that's the difference between being a Bob the Builder and so a woman who has her passions—her money is her money. You know, because she's sitting at home all day, she could be draining your account and not having any money, or she could be busy making her own and not paying your bills, because that would emasculate the man. Okay? So why would I go and pay bills if it's just—I'm asking you later—man who can pay those bills for me? I mean, I could feel masculine when I look at my bank account that all my money is piling up in, if I just want to look and feel masculine for a second. So, and if, if something ever should happen, if there's an emergency, like everyone always says in my thing—what if your husband lost his job? Well, he has all the stuff in place, you know, plus he's old—he gets his Social Security early. He has all his stuff in place, so he is—401k, he has savings and blah blah blah. But if something should happen—well, none of that was available—I got me and my kids all day, every day. You know what I'm saying? If I want to, I got it. So that's what—that's what it's all about. If you need it, you have it; you shouldn't have to spend it. Everything is optional. Okay? So you don't offer to do anything with your little money—Noyola business—let him continue to be the man, and you keep your stuff stacking. If he wants some of your money, if he needs some of your money, then he's trying to, you know, siphon off of you, which wouldn't part of the deal in the beginning. If he marries you and you didn't work anyway, you know, he should just be proud that you're doing something besides draining his bank account every day. Yes, James—James refuses to go broke. He will sell his kidneys, livers before he goes broke. That's kind of anti-Mary. Okay? On the black market, he would not go broke. I promise you, he will not even admit that he's gone broke. He will sell some organs before he goes broke. Okay? Um, I'm serious. You'll be a secret Uber driver on the side before he goes broke. I don't know, but he will never admit it. He's too proud to go broke. That's how I raised them back in the day. Um, my husband is proud of me now. He's proud, and I think he's at rest easy to know that if he died, I'm a bi—plus, I got their licensure, so—um, thank you. Exactly. Your money is your money, and his money is y'all's money. Exactly. Would you want to meet him in the next life? I'm already totally under contract. Maybe yes. You gonna take care of me in all my lives. This might be my last one, but my chart says that I'll always be taken care of. My astrological chart says that I'll always be taken care of. Oh, if y'all—hold on, I'll go get it, 'cause I know so many people want to see my chart. Hold on one second. I might, I might share on the other channel too, but hold on. You, you okay? This is old. Okay, so here's my chart. You're like a freeze frame it. So all that y'all wanted to know—I'm a Pisces with a rising Sagittarius. Get a freeze frame on it. Astrologers, I'll put it up close. Had it done professionally. I used to do to people's charts. I had a program that did it, but it's too time-consuming. I got this done—that store's all closed down. You can get that dialed line for free down [Music]. So did anyone see anything cool in my chart? Cool, May 11, 7. Hey, um, where does it say you'll always be taken care of? Us in my chart—that's the lady say—who—we actually—I have—I did my own chart on, on a computer where it prints out the description of each of your houses and it tells you exactly what each thing means. The lady just gave me the chart and what she said—oh, something-something means you'll always be taken care of. Okay, thank you. Also, and gave me a donation and she'll—sorry. Thank you, Watterson or Decian Morrison. I think I may have ran into a student of yours. I met this woman—in exchange numbers—the first time we talked over the phone, she was suggesting I pay the down payment to the car she wanted. Smart—that was a little too soon, but she, she looked good enough—she probably had the confidence, so—um, the other clock is wrong because it don't have battery—totality—I don't put—I don't like the ticking of it, so I took the battery. Mm-hmm. How—oh, I'm 70 now. Do the math. Sure, we have the same signs except our suns. Cool. I have two donations while I was gone. Oh, um, sorry. Okay, Keanu, thank you so much for the donation. How can you tell if the first conversation of a man is a provider male? Um, you can't tell from the first conversation, but you could tell by his actions—if he's gonna pay for everything and ask you if you need something and just a perfect gentleman—it doesn't really care too much about how much money you make, and when he brags a lot. Thank you, Leisha Gray. Yesterday, a guy told me if sex was off the table until then, she would not be interested in a relationship, but he takes me on dates and gets away—he doesn't give you cash—this ready black line is that way—he thinks he has to earn it—it doesn't do more—it's like I really have to be comfortable and you know—really have to impress me for me to want you on that level—he's gonna be trying and trying and trying—pretend like you really want—and then like, oh, you know, just—I don't want to get hurt—you never telling me you ain't gonna sleep with—and that's the stupidest thing you can ever do, because that's exactly why they want you. They don't love you; they love how you look and that you can sleep with them. That's it. If you ever tell them you—an Ewing—I'll sleep with—might as well kiss him goodbye. Right? Yeah, y'all talk too much. I told y'all—I told him to shut up. They talk too much—don't give away everything—all the secrets—y'all don't know how to play the game; that's why y'all always lose. Your honor—y'all aren't playing—I don't know if I look—I'll show you on my chart—game—whoever wanna see it—that's it. Can y'all see that? Does that answer your question? Okay? You thought they don't respect—they do respect you because they think they're working for it, but if you tell them you never get in there, then what do they have to work for? Nothing. You know what I'm saying? If they think they can get some, they'll continue to work—you know—work for the government right now—if they ain't paid you—bid—you—the government shutdown—you telling you ain't never gonna have sex—oh-ho—show up for work every day. I'm tired and I'm not getting paid. If you think your check is coming, you're gonna show up. If you know a check ain't coming, you're not—you're not gonna even show up. So stop telling them too much. You tell them too much. Mm-hmm. Start over. You live and you learn, you know? And no—here's nothing—no one's passion—no one's passion in life should be tricking men—that should just be a way to secure the bag—to find your passion—that's my—that's my whole thing—you're gonna get tired of it—you're tired of it soon—I just want to settle down—I just want to get—get my business going—that's the whole goal of this whole thing—to secure yourself—so—and I—and I know a lot of women who think, oh well, I'll just keep tricking men until I'm old—yeah, you probably already old to them—so you need to realize that you need to secure something—some type of business—some type of investment—some type of something—you can't trick them in forever—it's fun—you pay—you know—you get things bought for you—you can get married and secure a bag—you can do all that, but it's not gonna last forever—only you—you know—only your ideas and what you put your passions into—the last—mm-hmm.

Chu—are you going to do a video? I don't know. Okay, no—I'm not—not doing—to be on you—um, sure. I'm very young, and I'm not planning to give any of my super-daddy six. Do I tell them that then from the beginning or do I—mean—tell them—all—you'll lose them all. Okay? Just like if you went up to a job for the first day—they hired you and everything—but then they tell you, oh, but you're not gonna get paid—you're gonna show up for work? Use y'all's brains. Men don't care about you; they want sex. Okay? Men don't get out the bed unless they think they can have sex. Stop being dumb. Okay? Any man in here will tell you—if you tell them you ain't sleeping with him—there are bones—straight—it don't be done. Hmm. You know, I complimented the sex, then gave him a challenge, saying, "Be more aggressive next time," then when he thought I was going to chase him and get emotional, I ignored—not all men think they—did think with their dick—now some are spiritual—yeah—but look—they are—but eventually they won't say it—they try to get your mind first—in your body. Okay? So you might be spiritual until you figure out how to get free sex, and then you just want free sex. Okay? You gonna sit and meditate all day and look and pay my bills? If that's what—I thought men are different, but eventually they want some—eventually, you know what I'm saying? So you might not want sex, but you ain't gonna give me no money for free. That's the difference. What if the guy's really short but rich? Give him a chance, of course—he got money. Um—let him go to Hooters—tell him to bring you back some chicken with Shira—come on—I see that chica ain't—me and James just eat at Hooters all the time when I was younger—Eagle Atlantis—come on down. But I'm just being honest—you don't want something eventually from somebody—you ain't gonna sit up there and look at a woman unless she's just ugly and you can't think of her sexually, but you—Dean—you don't really want her. That's nature—men can't change the nature—they can control it, but they'll eventually start thinking about it. How to respond when a man says you're teasing? It's like, "Oh, really? I didn't know that I was teasing." Uh-huh. They laugh—you catch all the T's all the time—well—well, they can't put the investment in—then that's the same thing as going to look at a model home—you tease yourself by going looking at houses you can't afford. Okay? That's what you need to tell them—just think of me as a model home, and you're going to view homes that you can't afford—you're just teasing yourself, right? What—this is the cat toy—y'all think it—nasty thoughts—it's the freaks told you—I'm trying to play with the—the odor—the bitter—you're dead—what's more attractive to rich men—beautiful women with no job or average-looking woman with a job? I'm still confused with this—rich men don't care if you have a job. Okay? Their friends are rich; they can't show up with an average chick—if their friends' wives are beautiful—you know what I'm saying?—you got to be that trophy wife. Now, the only man that wants a woman who makes money is a man who is allowed to cheat while she's busy with her career—he has mistresses on the side, and he don't care that she's ugly and average, because he can take his mistress wherever he needs to go and shy—you know what I'm saying?—so that's the point—like she would help—I don't know how to be patient—I'm in my level up—I know it's an ongoing crisis, but I can't help but to wish I was there already—then just keep going—like—change the major things—that's what you gotta do—the major things—change—you know—that will help you feel better—whether it's your hair and your makeup—change something major. Mm-hmm. How can you become witty and quick? As you be smart—read—deal with people you don't want to deal with—face your challenges—you know—I don't block anybody off my thing—somebody comes at me, I can go right back at them. I don't wanna—and I don't hide—and I'm not upset—I see everything as positive—like if somebody comes in here and called me all kind of names—for me—a—it's a view—it's a comment—and it's an opportunity to make someone else laugh by dragging them right back—so it's a win-win—I don't see it as a negative—I see it as a win. Okay? That's how you can do it—don't—don't look at men as something—oh—to be intimidated by—look at them as entertainment—I wonder how he's gonna react to this—you know—see it from a different angle—instead of being nervous and going on an interview-type date—see how you can make him act—react to you—see what he's gonna do—I mean, I bet you I could get him to—him to be nervous—and him to drop stuff—to fiddle around—you know—that is your challenge—it's all a game—exactly—you going at it like you're the insecure one and you're nervous and you don't know what the saying—you're just—you know—have no clue—then that's how the date's gonna be—take it and twist it, and it'll be refreshing to them, and you'll be like having fun, and they'll see that you're very different and not like all the other people they meet who do the interview dates—almost like talking to a co-worker—you know—so what do you like to do? What are your hobbies? So what's the last—you know—if you like—say some weird phrase like the Joker did on Batman—"Have you ever danced with the devil in the pale moonlight, Batman?" Okay? I thought she was trying to sacrifice me—Islam—be funny—but not too funny—because that's best—you'll be funny and you're in a feminine way—laughs—be—be happy—men love it—women are—when women are happy. Mm-hmm. If you don't want to come off superficial, then you're wasting your time. It's best to be honest, straight up and in the beginning—if, if you're worth it, you don't keep your superficial. Okay? So here's my thing: if you're trying to lie about wanting something and then when it's time to get it and you can't get it, you're gonna wonder why, because you weren't honest with them straight up from the beginning. You know, if any man is talking about any type of sex with me, I'm talking about all bills paid and we're in a committed relationship. That's what I mean—if you want this—if not, move along—serve—somebody else will—that's it. Okay? And if they know that and they don't want to lose the opportunity, then they're gonna do what you need them to do. That's just basically it. Thank you, Rose, thank you for that nice donation. Thank you, Shira, for all that you do. You're truly appreciated. Please give us more tips on the power of suggestion on me to get Lenny gifts. It's, it's more about knowing that you can get them; it's not trying to get them—as knowing that you can get them. So, for example, if I, if I—I know that I can get something from someone if I just say a certain thing and do a certain thing and look them in the eye and get close enough to them and make them feel like if they say no, they will never see me again—and I brighten up their day so much that if they lost contact with me, they would have lost a needle in a haystack and a diamond in the rough—that's how you got to come at it. If you're dating—if you were average—if you ain't leveled up—if you look like everybody else that they can swipe through—you can't get it. That's why I say you've got a level up. You got to be confident in who you are. Okay? And you know how to tell them what you want—to ask—or you have to know how to say the right situation for them to offer what you want. It's a—it's a—depends on the man—you can't get cookie-cutter advice because every man is different. If a man who grew up hard and don't like to waste money on stupid, frivolous things—you got to trick him into saying that you need him to rescue you—you got to use his childhood stories—that hidden board—do you have to get with—on his dates—to trigger a memory—to get your money—you know—and is very easy—but y'all are not thinking strategy—you're thinking temporary—present—getting—to get out—no—you need to think of strategy—Jala—playing checkers—in that chess—you know what I'm saying? Um, y'all need to raise your IQ. You don't need to start reading those books in the group—if y'all are in the group—you'll need to start reading those books. Okay? Those books aren't in there for fun; they're free—those books cost money on Amazon—y'all need to be reading the books in the group if y'all are in the group. Okay? Because they go into all the psychology, all the chips, all the tricks. If y'all aren't reading those books in the group, y'all just wasted your—gentlemen—to get in that group, because those books are worth way more than y'all paid to give you. So get some strategy—stop being basic—get a consultation for me or Mikayla—y'all have to stop being so basic—you know—this is like 2019. Okay? Y'all—alright—some of y'all are too old to be this basic—y'all have not played games because y'all been too busy Bob the Builder and being a good woman and left empty-handed—now it's time to play, and y'all don't know what to do—y'all don't know the rules—go get them books. I have a book out called *Too Pretty to Pay Bills* on Amazon; it's an e-book. You can go buy my book if you want; it's real short—it's a guide basically—um—but y'all need to really get y'all some game, and it's different with each type of man. Mm-hmm. *Too Pretty to Pay Bills*—it's the name of my book [Music]. Who cares about how other people look at you? Is your back secured? Are you free? Put your head—Ibaka's—all glass—ten—you a supermodel—you Naomi Campbell—you act famous—look—you can be whoever you want in your own mind—look—whatever you think you are mentally, that's what you will be. You know, that's what you can feel like; that's how you can walk around feeling. I throw my sunglasses on and I walk around like I'm a secret celebrity, even though I'm not—they don't know—like a lot—like a lot about how I play on episodes—episodes of Law & Order and Vampire Diaries—people don't know—I could be lying—I'm a celebrity—Mary—there you go—they don't know—they'll just say, "Really? Can I have your autograph?" "Sure"—walk around feeling like you a celebrity—walk around feeling on you a VIP—stop worrying about what other people think—other people are there to make sure that somebody is looking at you. Thank you, Tae Ha. When are you accepting new level-up group members? I've been starting the process, and I've seen dramatically—if you have full makeup and wigs ready to go or you know your hair is as cute, and you're not fifty pounds overweight, you can get straight on in—or we just start with the pre-level-up group, which—and get you there—to be able to join the level-up group—and Christ, thank you for the donation, by the way—um—but you got to be serious about it—you can't just dress up once a week—this is an everyday thing—now I'm not talking about dressing up, but hair and makeup—everyday—everyday—everyday—everyday—you can't take no—you can't come busting up on there—show me a picture from ten years ago—coming up—look great—because I had a lot of people do that, and I don't appreciate—you ready to level up for real, then you put—you got to put energy and effort into it, and you will need to continuously invest in your level up within your own self. You know, you will have to buy your makeup and wigs and hair and hair products and clothes and stuff. You can't join this if you've got two dollars to your name, because you—how you gonna level up with, with nothing? Okay? So make sure you're 100% ready. Thank you. If you're ready, you know, contact me on Facebook. I haven't answered them yet, 'cause it's too many sometimes—what I do—and I get over—well, I just delete them all and let's start all over—because—let it powder—so I might delete them all and start over today. I don't know. Um, your natural hair is too long for week—you better spray it and braid it—repeat it—well, I've seen women with a lot of hair—where—with—mm-hmm—government cheese—that is not nice. Mm-hmm. I'm begging for money online. Okay? What if the woman who wants the sex first and he don't want to until he gets to know you? He's small penis—that's clue number one—he's little—oh—um—see how can get him to chase me by different ways? If he ain't chasing you, he don't want you. Wants a necklace—you got to have the basic—students—yep—tools—didn't apply them—exactly—how to not get mad at men—and for only one—women—for sex—all men want women for sex unless they're gay. Okay? So get mad at all the men and then get over it—then figure out your strategy on how to trick them and never give it to them. Okay? Be smart, not dumb—what you—

Say, is spot-on. You crack up; crack me up. Telling it like it is. I find myself laughing out loud. Thank you.

Um, I'm ready for the "Too Pretty to Pay Bills." Yes, that's a book on Amazon, my ebook. And you can get it free if you have Amazon Prime and download the Kindle app. You can get it. What does it mean if he doesn't chase you, but he helps support you? It means he has another woman, and he probably helped support her too, you know. Or he really doesn't want you, but he feels like, "I'll help you, but I don't care," you know.

Mm-hmm. I mean, he could have—he has options. It's not expensive to get a book published through Amazon.

Mm-hmm. I don't even—I think I don't even think it's sex. I think it has to meet a certain criteria, and then they'll publish it.

Shira, how should I react when men flirt with me in front of my sugar daddy? He doesn't say anything; just looks at me. That's so sweet, but I'm already taken, you know. Or I'll just rub on the guy, or rub on his shoulder. They love that. They give you the extra—okay, sure. How should I—

Enjoyed reading the ebook. Thank you.

Um, sure. I've got the look, and talk, and meet wealthy men off that they want to pay in for very expensive dinners and trips. But how to get the money or deals paid? You got to be wife material or mistress material. If you're just a dinner date, somebody to be seen out in public with, so make themselves feel like they're all that, that's all you are. Either you're very basic and boring, or you're not the wife material or the girlfriend material. You got to have some type of personality. They have to feel like they cannot live without you. That's what you gotta do. You gotta find their weakness and really work on it, to where they can't live without you. Okay? If you're too much, if you look fake, if you're too plastic, then they're not going to want to take you home to meet Mom, you know what I'm saying? So you need to make sure that you are not overly, you know what I call, you know, the escort-type look. If you look like an escort, you're just gonna be treated like an escort. You gotta have the personality. You gotta have, you know, the ability to transform, you know. You got to look good in every night. You gotta look just as good as you do dressed as you do in jeans. You gotta be able to meet Mom. You have to be able to speak, and you have to be able to not embarrass him in front of his colleagues, friends, and family. If you don't fit into his world, if you can't blend into his world, he's not taking you anywhere except where you are supposed to stand out, which is vacations and dinners. You'll—you are the arm candy, and that's all you are. So you may be beautiful, you may meet wealthy men, but if you're just their arm candy, then you're temporary, and he'll probably end up marrying someone else—someone else seriously. And then when they're busy, oh, then they'll call you for dinner, or when they're upset with their—their woman because they demanded an engagement ring, they'll call you for dinner and take you on a trip and go back and buy that ring. So you're the place filler for the woman or that he doesn't know yet, hasn't met yet, or who he's currently upset with. You need to get on the same level as whoever that woman is, but take yourself out of the escort rotation, which is nothing that gets escorts. But if you want more, then you have to look like and act like more. Okay? You're pretty, but don't have authority; take—take it. That's a choice.

Mm-hmm. Sure. Do they all appreciate all intelligent women that can hold a conversation, or they don't give it in as long as you don't outsmart them and outdo them, or out-with them? They're fine with it. Wait till after you secure the bag, then bust out you're smart. You're 19 years old; you're still having fun, you know. He was falling in love, yet broken up and realizes many things. Go have fun. You get about 20 to 23, and you realize the truth, then put this information into action.

Mm-hmm. What do you do about your boyfriend stalker ex? Get a new boyfriend; too much baggage. Um, you don't want to end up on Forensic Files.

Advice: Never tell anyone super religious about leveling up; they will not understand. I don't know any super religious people, but no, taken. I will never tell.

Um, y'all get this elixir; it's life-changing. Oh, yeah. What, you on Phase two or Phase one? Phase two of my elixir. Men love that face. Oh, whether the woman's taking it or they're taking it, that's the Viagra phase. It will give you so much energy, you know. Also, that's what y'all need if y'all don't know. Y'all is passion; y'all need—you don't mind elixir. I have—I'm gonna introduce Phase five, probably the end of this week. But Phase one gives you energy; Phase two gives you energy, passion, and creativity. It also stimulates you to where you have to convert that passion. It feels like you want to have sex, but you convert that into action and creativity. But a lot of people be using it like Viagra or female Viagra. It's on my Etsy store, Darkroom. I have an Etsy store called Darkroom, and it's Phase two, and the instructions are in the description. But it's an oral thing that you take drops—drop some instructions. I don't know with you.

Mm-hmm. How can I meet a wealthy man by going to the gym in a wealthy area? Um, most wealthy—wealthy people, they don't like to socialize unless they're in a social setting. So if that gym has like a cafe or area where people are just chillin', you can like bump into them, drop something, like—but when you're working out, people are more focused on their workout. So try in a more social area in the gym, you know, like well-being. It's asking accent like in them directions or what they think of this. Just be friendly, cuz like at the gin, it's almost like a country club/community, especially there's no rich area, so people are more social in those type of environments. Um, so just, you know, smile, be bubbly. That is—that you'll—you'll get someone. Yeah. Start for Phase one worker—

Um, excuse me. People are talking crazy and cluttering the chat. Really? Sure. How to deal with the manipulative me? And don't be even more manipulative. What about a guy who thinks all you want to do is have sex with him, and she hurt him, so he will not have sex if he has a little penis, some is wrong with it, he's got a disease, something. Okay, he's usually you for money, he's gay, something. Okay. Most men will not withhold sex; sorry, something wrong. How do you respond? A man says, "Your teeth?" Of course, I'm a tease. I'm out of your price range. You're teasing yourself with me. You know what? I made—I need the finer things. It wouldn't be a tease if I was in a five-star restaurant. It would be a tease of all my bills paid. You're teasing yourself, right?

Um, what do you think about men who claim to not like weaves and makeup? They lie; they like anything as long as it looks good on you.

Um, ladies, read books to learn, and like I said, my homies taught me how to play me, and exactly, you got to read a book. There's whole books on these topics on the mentality and the psyche of me. Okay? And men write the books; a lot of the men wrote the books because they know how they think. Me and won't sit straight up. If you don't know that, then you're behind.

Mm-hmm-hmm. Once you know one man, you know them all. But of course, they change after sex. Exactly. You gonna have a totally different man after you sleep with them. Just know that men are simple, and women are crazy. Men are easy; women are complicated. I'll say that we have to be complicated; we do a lot more than y'all.

What or thoughts on Steve Harvey's book? I didn't read his book, but I know a lot of the stuff he says that I've seen like a memes and stuff, I agree with a lot of it.

Mm-hmm. I—you attract rich white men, but not—but men, black men, what money? Why is that? Well, it depends on how you look. You don't just—depends on how you look. To see—see what you look like.

Mm-hmm. Just if you want the answer to that, look at all the people that got rich and famous, and they dumped their day ones and got whoever they got with. Okay? How to deal with a man with a midlife crisis? Be the mistress; make him feel young; don't even notice his age. I agree about doing what you love. Yes, so as long as ya—after you secure the bag, after you get the man, do what you love, and you won't really be worried about him anymore. Like, y'all won't even be asking these questions because you'll be too busy doing what you love. You see, this is the way to get and secure the bag. After you secure the bag, after you get money, after you don't have to work anymore, after you can start your own business, after you can do whatever you need to do and want to do, you won't have the wrong address. It's Rico. He'll give them—get that—whoever will smell like slop on my doorstep. Know that it was like you're gonna ring my doorbell and smoke and then disappear, doing what I was doing. Um, that doll computer, I looked; there was nobody out there. I think it was the wrong address prior to my lawn me or somebody ever. It's the government.

Um, my Michael Jackson book, Christmas gift for my kids. It's a—it's the book on um, all the songs he wrote and the people that were involved in the song and the idea behind the song. So all his songs that he ever wrote, the ideas behind it, all the people involved with making the song. It's pretty cool. And then I have my Thriller; it's a real album. The Glass—a Half Williams. Y'all remember all albums? Play one. Okay. Copyright, no prints. Don't allow nobody claimed it. Prince don't play Mike and place another. Oh, found this at a thrift store for two dollars. Maybe play it like a fast motion. I think that's all I can eat it. Yeah, I got this that um, Books-A-Million at the bookstore, they sell like the little record players. You call now on one. I don't even know anybody that smart. There were some people doing the law not be there, not be Marcus at my door. You leave him alone.

Mm-hmm. Bloom. Yeah, I finally watched it. I kept forgetting. Thank you. Okay. Well, I look like a stripper. Thank you. Strippers big sexy.

Mm-hmm. I drop a Jaguar, but tell them I can't make the payments. Good for you, huh? See, when I don't chase him, he chases me. Why? Cuz I don't know. Okay, I don't even know. You need to go ahead and have some sex or something, like a—you act the real virginal. Gotta even—you need to figure out your power. Like I'm serious. Once a woman realizes her power, she don't ask dumb quick some dumb questions anymore. She just knows the answer already, right? Isn't that true, ladies? Once you had sex, you knew your power, and you didn't ask the same dumb questions over and over. You know your power. Once you sleep with a man, then they become too weak, or if they have many options and they just used you for sex, then you become upset. So your power is in your beauty and insects and your ability to wield it as you need to wield it to get what you want out of life. That's it. Your sexist sword and your beauty is what draws them in, and that's what it is, and you know how to wield it the correct way and use your power the court, what you can have anything you want.

Mmm-hmm. So perhaps you just don't understand your to power yet because you haven't experienced it.

Mm-hmm. Thank you, Cynthia Jeanne. Ladies, get the blue power of the by Cara King. Yeah, know your power, then you won't be a victim.

Mm-hmm. Get some outdoor security cameras. Okay. Yeah, I'm—I'm thinking of doing that. After you have sex with the man and you're powerful, you won't feel insecure.

Exactly. All right, well, I gotta go, but thank you all for tuning in. I'm gonna let this dog back in, and I'm Michael laughs later on my other channel if I have the time, but thank y'all so much. Thank y'all for everybody, you know, donating. Thank y'all for turning in, asking me questions, and if I didn't get to your question, I'm sorry. You could probably put in the comments and I'll see it later and maybe answer it, but uh-huh. Thank you. Get a gun. I got many more; they walk in, they ain't coming out.

Mm-hmm. See you later. [Music]