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And he opens up the door, but didn't open it up for me, and the door hit me. It's the issue with the majority of men. Think that this is transactional—like you're not kind just to be kind. There is always an expectation.
Situation where I was being bothered at a bar. Do I think it would be courteous of them to show me protection? Yes. The minute you start to not appreciate but expect, I'm not doing it for you. And I'm a woman, and I feel that way. And I know men—I know men that feel that way. Chivalry is not dead. And chivalry is something that should never die.
[Music] Everybody who is watching me get air in my tire as a woman, as a woman letting me do this by myself. It's crazy, man. I don't know what a PSI is. So, you expect a guy. This is what I'm trying to get right: you respect the guy because a guy has to take a lot of things into consideration, right? He has to take into consideration what if your man is coming. Seriously, I'm going to look at your face and say, and this is a compliment, too. This is a very pretty young lady. I don't know if a man is coming, her man is coming to her rescue, cuz men do assume that you ladies have men coming, right? So that's number one. Number two, he's shy. He's not looking at it like, "Oh, you already know. Ladies already know guys are not talking to you nowadays." And then also a man's called a creep. So a man's supposed to look at all of that and think shivery. All of that stuff that guys deal with. Shivery. Forget that shivery. You killed it with all of that. Now watch this. She had some nerves. Watch this, guys. There's more. So she showed herself after she bought a tire pressure checker machine, right? She acted like she's saying like aha to you. I got to play the music a little bit so you guys can see it. Hold on. See, [Music] look. She was mad that day, right? But like I said, how is a guy supposed to guess? How was he? So that's a stab back at us when that's something you need. You're supposed to buy that for yourself anyway. I know you bought it after, cuz that's something you always have in your car. Oh, the light bells aren't working. I guess that's what's happening. She said she forgot it at home. The light bells aren't working. Go figure that out and stop trying to expect the man to do everything for you. You don't need us.
Remember these London roads? Because why are men constantly trying to like overtake me, cut me off? Like I'm just a girl. Like just let me in. Like you see me trying to come in. Why don't you just be a man and let me in? But second of all, why are you moving in that way when you're driving like a BMW, Mercedes? Have you seen the scratches on my Nissan? Do you think I care? Do you know how mad I am? Like if anything, you should be scared of me. I will get—I will get in there. So you—this is dangerous. This is a public service announcement. Like you're just a girl. What are you trying to say about women? Seriously, you trying to say you can't drive? You trying to say you want—you don't want your license? You—you want a man to drive for you? I mean, I thought we're equal. She's saying take my license away. I'm just a girl. Take away my license. I shouldn't be on these London roads. I shouldn't be driving on these London streets. Take my license. Seriously, I'm working for the DMV. I'm thinking like, um, what's her name? Okay, I see her TikTok. Yeah, I see her address, too. We can track that. Let's track it to her address. Then they should do that and come take your license. What are you waiting for, babe? For you to open the door. What do you mean open the door? You're standing next to the door. Just open it. No, I'm your wife. You're supposed to open the door for me. Are you serious? Yes. So, you want me to get out, come all the way around and open the door for you? You should have done it beforehand and made sure that I didn't have to open the door myself. Yeah, but we're in a rush. We need to go. Perhaps this is part of a marriage. Why? I married you. You used to open the door for me all the time. What's changed? I get it. Listen, I get it. Babe, we have to—we're in a hurry. We need to go. I'm not opening my own door. Are you serious? So, you're just going to stand there? So, I could just drive off until you be a man for me. What do you mean until I be a man? I am a man. Show me how much you care by opening the door. Why should I be troubled? Why should—listen to your question. Why should you be troubled? I'm supposed to be the woman. I'm supposed to be looked after by the—by you. I am looking after you. I'm driving you, aren't I? You didn't open the door. You stopped opening doors for me. You even pushed past me and went in front of me. So, this is—I'm waiting now as part of a principle. Oh my days. Are you serious? Mhm. You should open the door now. This is a nightmare. Honestly, what if I just—here you go. That's—that's fine. Yeah, I can't lie. That's his wife. It wasn't the kind of treatment I'm expecting, but it'll do for now. Honestly, you're a troublemaker. You—that's his wife. It's a little bit different. It's a little different. Yeah. Look at it like a win is a win. You married her, she was gentle about it, right? She's not a feminist at all. She doesn't believe in none of that propaganda. I understand. She deserves you to open a door for her. She probably has your babies. Open that door for her. She deserves the royalty to be kned. It was this lady that spoke about it. I got—let me—let me show that real quick. That—that's what knights do. Video.
This is clearly an unpopular opinion, but I believe chivalry and equality can coexist, and I'm going to explain how. Based on some very brief research, and feel free to correct me, but in about the 11th or 12th century AD, chivalry was first adopted to basically hold knights to a certain standard. Um, if they wanted to be respected and honored, they had to fit this certain standard. So, originally, this had nothing to do with gender. Now, here's where gender comes into play. To be a very well-respected knight, um, often times in romantic literature from that time period, um, the most respected knights had respect for women, and those with the most respect for women often won the love of the woman. Just a side note, that's the original roots of chivalry. Some people argue that the more modern-day idea of it comes from 19th-century Europe. Now, call me old-fashioned, call me outdated, but I believe that there's some things that should never die, and chivalry is one of those things. So, equality for me basically means that I believe my life is just as valuable as that of a man's. But on the other hand, I believe that I am entirely different than a man. I think nowadays a lot of women are quick to look at chivalry as painting them to be weak. Um, they look at a man opening a door for them as almost making them look incapable. And that's not really what chivalry is. Chivalry is not this condescending, demeaning thing. It's simply respect. So, this is what gets me so angry is that women look at it as this horrible thing because they're painted as weak. But originally in the 19th century, chivalry was looked at as women are so special, those days are over and should be treated with extra respect. Disagree with me all you want, but there is no denying that in most cases, men are physically stronger than women. And if we completely get rid of chivalry, the effects of that will be absolutely lethal. At the end of the day, there are certain things that I can provide that a man can't, and vice versa. Chivalry is in equality. Chivalry is not dead, and chivalry is something that should never die. Chivalry is dead, and women killed it. At the end of the day, it's a mutual respect that should honestly go both ways. That they're not going to hold the door open for women anymore. Because I can't tell you how many times I have gone into a store, the man was going in front of me, he saw me coming behind him and he opened up the door but didn't open it up for me and the door hit me, or he was coming out of the door and hold it open for me to go through it, and the door hit me. And this has happened multiple times. So, I just want to know, have men decided that they are just not going to hold the door open for women anymore? It's just with equality. The last lady talked about it, but it's left a sore spot with a lot of men, right? A sore spot that hurts. Also, it's not taught nowadays. It's not pushed. You know, like when I walk with my wife, I tell her a lot of the time to walk on—on the—the inner side of the sidewalk. That's just something natural that I—I know and I do. Now, a lot of younger men may not do that. They don't know about that. They aren't taught that. And talking about that, I need to teach my son that because I doubt my son knows it. So, we need to have a talk. But that's something men are taught. They may not be taught. Also, you know, where I'm from, you have a lot of guys growing up without fathers. But that's another thing for another time. But still, they should learn it from seeing how other men operate. But still, you ladies have to understand, you've dug a hole. You know, you try to—even the last lady, she tried to make it seem like feminism doesn't play a big part. It does. We're equal now. You ladies have to understand what equality brings. It brings equal treatment. And some ladies, they push that equal treatment by putting their hands on men and doing many different things showing, "I'm a full man, don't treat me like a woman." Some men—a lot of times it's not right, but they're happy to oblige. And that's what we have nowadays. This is why chivalry is dead. This is why men don't want to do for us anymore. Because the minute you start to not appreciate but expect, I'm not doing it for you. And I'm a woman, and I feel that way. And I know men—I know men that feel that way. I don't have to do anything for you but respect you. I don't have to send you money. I don't have to spend money on you. I don't have to do any of that. That's—that's a—that's something I want to do. Yeah. Very true. And that's how a lot of men see the date market nowadays. That's why men have given up on dating, right? Because expecting things—like the first lady, she expected a man to pull over on the side of the road and do something for her. You can tell by the way she is and the way she looks, she's very used to pretty privilege. But like—like I said, I explained myself, and what I said was right. A man just doesn't know. But out in the street, yeah, it's been dead for a long time. I talked about it before. I reacted to a video before and I talked about it. But even when I was still in the West, men weren't giving up their seats. I would be the one to give up my seat. But if I was tired, I was giving up my seat. I'm being real with you. And a lot of men, if they were tired, they weren't either. They weren't giving up their seat on the bus, train. They're tired just like you're tired. I deserve this [ __ ] just like if you got here before me, you deserve this [ __ ]. That's how a lot of men see it. But it's dead and it's never coming back. You got to understand once you kill something, it can't come back. Ding ding. Message.
Let's unpack this one. Being a feminist doesn't mean that I don't want courtesy and respect. It just means I want equality. Do I think that in this situation where I was being bothered at a bar like her and no one said anything, do I think that men owe me protection? No. Do I think it would be courteous of them to show me protection? Yes. Wait a minute. Who are you? And I would think that of any person. It doesn't have to be based in gender norms. If I saw someone being bothered at a bar, male, woman, they, them, whatever, I would probably say something, especially if I was very close to them, which all of these men that were near me were. The bartender was literally in front of me. I think also it would be rude of me to expect it of just men. I also expect women to stand up for me, and I've been in situations at bars where women have stood up for me. In fact, women stand up for me more than men do. Oh, I don't expect it from men. I expect it from everyone because we're a community. This isn't gendered expectations. I expect everyone to treat everyone with courtesy and respect. If I told that man no, that means I would like to not speak to him. So, he should have given me the courtesy of leaving me alone. And when he didn't, I would expect the courtesy of the bartender or the establishment and the management to say something, especially when he spilled a beer basically on my food—being dramatic, but it was very close. And that's why I ended up moving. So, when we talk about modern relationships and we talk about chivalry, I think we still expect certain things because they're rooted in courtesy and respect and romance, not based in protectiveness and like he who has to take care of me because I can take care of myself in a lot of respects, but I also value someone who cares about other people. So that's where chivalry comes into play. And it doesn't have to be gendered. Chivalry can be for anybody. Does that make sense? Hope that helps.
Men aren't doing that anymore. Seriously, men are not jumping in front of other men for ladies. They don't know you. If you were somebody that was a family member, somebody a guy would lay his life down on the line for, he would jump in, no problem. But that's how men see things. Do you know how many times men have been blamed? Men have helped out families and then afterward were blamed for trying to save the family. He was sued for it actually. So what do you think's happened after that? So many other men have taken notice. They saw that situation and they said, "hm, when a situation happens like that, it's better for me not to do anything." Because if the man wouldn't have done anything, he wouldn't have got sued. What does that tell men? Stay out of the way because we have to. Imagine a man helped you. I'm telling you, you save somebody from a burning building, right? You throw them on the floor, they live, but they break their legs. They want to sue you for getting broken legs. That's today's people. But you're alive because of me. No, I got broken legs. You should have thrown me, and I didn't break my legs. I'm not saying every person, but you'd be surprised. There'd be some people that would say that. See me in court. I'm getting sued because they got broken legs. That's what men understand. They know there's people out there who are petty and that will hold something against them, and we just don't want to take those chances. And it took 2 minutes for somebody to literally prove my point. Um, because if you're only being kind to women or your desire for genuine human interaction only comes out of an expectation that in return you will be given um adoration, praise, sexual or romantic attention, then that's not actual kindness. And that's the issue here because there are always strings attached, and women can see through that, and we know that there are ulterior motives because if you can't offer somebody their—your seat on the subway without being praised for it, um, then that's not actual kindness. That's just wanting to look good and be desired. Um, and it's so—that's the issue with the majority of men. And not all men, but a lot of you think that this is transactional. Like you're not kind just to be kind. There is always an expectation. I wonder why they left along with it. And it's BS. That's the bed you made. Lay in it. I got to be cut and dry cuz more and more of you are complaining, right? And look what it says. Assuming all men are predators or why men don't give up their subway seats to women anymore and why chivalry is dead says it right there. That's why chivalry is dead and women killed it. Assuming all men are predators, what does that show you? Men have taken the things that have happened in recent history personal. You finally feel it now. You see it though. I should have showed when a bunch of ladies were standing and a bunch of men got deceased first. I just talked about it earlier, but it's been like that for the longest time. Men have been—for many, many, many years—men have stopped doing that. And I don't think it's just feminism, but feminism played a large part. It did. It sure did. Men also seeing you ladies don't care anyway. You don't like a nice guy unless it benefits you. Like the first lady, right, pumping air in her tires. She doesn't like a nice guy until it benefits her. And then she's trying to show off to men when men were thinking, "I don't want to invade." And then somebody like her would say, "But no, it—it's a different scenario. This is different. What's happening with me is different." No, it's not. It's not different. Cuz a man could be thinking, "You're going to meet a man, so I'm not giving up my CT." I'm just joking. But men don't want to hear it. That's what we came to. Men don't want to hear anything you ladies have to say about chivalry because they're not doing it. And not all men, but a lot—door for me. He paid for my food. He walked me to the door. I love him. He's such a gentleman. It's like those days are over. No, that's what he's supposed to do. If that's what men are supposed to do on dates, what are the things that girls are supposed to do on a date? I'm genuinely asking cuz I've never heard anyone say this. Men are supposed to ask you out. They're supposed to plan the date. They are supposed to open your door. They're supposed to buy you flowers—for some people like that. Some people don't. They're supposed to pay. They're supposed to pull out your seat. They're supposed to open your car door. All those things. If those are the list of things that men are supposed to do to be considered a gentleman or chivalous, what are the things that girls are supposed to do? Absolutely nothing. She says that chivalry is dead and she hates how her girlfriends go on dates. Guys do those things and girls are like blown away by it. Now I agree guys should do those types of things. Also, chivalry is not dead. You just don't date chivalous men, and that's your fault. But I've never thought if those things are baseline for a guy—baseline. The bare minimum as women like to say, what is it for a girl? You can't say wearing a nice outfit or looking pretty in any way. is over and over again in my comment section. I'm told that women do that for themselves. That's what they're going to say. No accountability. They will not be accountable. And that's not good. Cuz that's—that's what it is. That's why he's asking this question. What are you supposed to do? I'll tell you. Be gentle. Be nice. Do something for me that shows me you want me. You know that's what ladies overseas do, right? I hear it so many times, especially even in places like Columbia, right? A guy will be talking to a girl and she'll come over to his hotel room and he's shot, but it's not to give it to him that first time, right? She comes over to show him that she's worthy. How does she show him she's worthy? She cooks for him and cleans his hotel room and then goes home. How many guys have heard that story from? Will blow your mind. Cooks, cleans, and then goes home. Meanwhile, back in the West, oh, only cook for your husband. Look, I get it. You ladies have done it for the wrong guys. I get it. But to show a man your appreciation, how else are you going to do it? Because I know how they're going to do it. They're already freak nasties anyway.
They're going to give him some first thing they're thinking. They're thinking about it more than a guy. Of course, they don't want to see him easy, but if a guy, that's why if a guy is not showing that he he's into her, that he wants it, she's going to get bored. And that's pretty much almost every girl. Isn't that flawed? Think about that.
You have to show you're into a woman, really into it, like you want to get it, in order for her to take you serious, cuz then soon after she'll be calling you gay. He didn't try to press me to to hit it. Gay. What? This is why men in America look at you like if you're not giving none, you're not giving me none. Then who are you giving it to? Because most likely you're giving it to somebody. And I got to repeat myself. I know I'm like a broken record, but I had to repeat myself.
When I was in the West, I didn't go on any dates. No dates. The woman I was smashing didn't take them out a lot of times. The woman I smashed one time, I hit her. I didn't quit her though. I hit it again. But I meet up with him and do what I do. I was a little cold, I'll be honest. But that's what I did. That's how I didn't respect the lady. She didn't show me she was into me, you know? Just didn't do it.
But yeah, guys, Shere's dead. They killed it and still wanted the way it was, but it's never coming back. And you got to bite that. Ladies have to bite that bullet because you did it all. But other than that, peace out, guys. See you next video. [Music]