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The second house is the house of value systems, self-worth, and material resources. It shows our attitude towards finances, money, possessions, and self-esteem. Planets tenting the second house show how we earn and spend our personal money.
This is the house of personal resources, as opposed to the eighth house of other people's resources. The second house is what we personally own; the eighth house is what others own, especially our sexual partners. It also points to how we can be liberated from physical and emotional needs and attachments.
The second house is how we form attachments, and the eighth house is how we transform out of our attachments. Our perception of physical safety and security is also described by the second house, and our ideas about how we will or will not be physically supported, how our physical needs will be met.
The second house is also the realm of sensuality and aesthetic appreciation, and the senses. Since it describes the physical body, it shows our idea of beauty. Our concept of worth and beauty is based on our own understanding and appreciation of our own worth and beauty. The second house shows what physically looks and feels good to us. Quality is also a facet of the second house: quality of the voice, quality of our physical expression, and also of our physical desires. Art is also the property of the second house.
This is an earth house, and as such, contains our attitudes about the earth, ecology, and the quality of the earth we want to live on. The second house is integral because it shows our essential attitude about our own self-worth. Money and self-worth are connected because we only charge as much for our time and attention as we feel we deserve. Our self-esteem results in our earnings and is the basis for how we view material support, abundance, or lack.
The second house represents the toddler stage of life, from eighteen months to four years old. This is the stage of human development when we learn about object permanence. This means the understanding that something physical can be out of sight but still exist. This stage of development is when children start walking and start to be able to physically act as an individual. So, the second house describes our early environment when we come to feel separate from our parents.
The second house is where the roots of selfish and selfless behavior begin. The second house is where narcissism first emerges. Narcissism and how we behave in matters of love are linked to problems with developing healthy self-esteem due to a lack of a healthy relationship with object constancy. Problems with object constancy translate to problems in relationships because it causes clinginess and jealousy. If we do not believe something or someone will be there for us when we can't see it or them, then we grasp it with a death grip and don't trust it when it's out of our sight.
A good relationship with object permanence begins with a deep knowing that we have so warmly attached to mother, the love object, that even when she is absent, we do not feel alone or lonely. We instead feel constancy. We feel that we carry around mom's love inside of us all the time. This is the source of strength which allows a healthy child to be dropped off at school and feel so secure inside. Then he's eager to try something new and play with strangers, not to cling to mother.
Solid, consistent, trustworthy, and reliable are words we associate with Taurus, the archetype that naturally rules the second house. It is caretakers treating us in the ways that these words describe that creates our self-esteem. As young children, we are self-centric because we see ourselves as the center of everything. We also see ourselves as the cause of everything. If our early second house environment did not impart to us that our caretakers were solid in their ability to return to us, not consistent in their conversation, not trustworthy in how they regarded us, or unreliable in their responses, a healthy understanding of object constancy cannot develop. Hence, there is a lack of understanding that someone can love you and not be in constant physical or verbal communication with you. Self-esteem suffers when you are not with the object of your affection.
This is why the second house rules personal possessions, objects, and illustrates how we feel about objects outside of ourselves based on how we objectify ourselves on the inside, how we feel about ourselves. The second house is our earliest attachment to caregivers and the ways that we were physically handled, the amount of physical FaceTime, attention we got, the gazing into our eyes, the quality of the chattering conversation our mother held with us. Consider how we instinctively talk to very young children, which chatter away to them about every little thing in a high-pitched voice. This is supremely important for a child's development because our conversation is attention, and it teaches them about their worth.
The quality of the early attention that we receive informs our idea about our own self-worth and is the basis for how we feel about ourselves, and consequently, how much we will charge for our services. Will we charge a high fee that makes us feel appreciated and reflects our appreciation for ourself, or will we sell our time and attention cheaply and end up feeling taken advantage of? These are the questions that can be answered by looking at what and how many planets tenant the second house, how those planets are aspected, and how the ruler of the second house is aspected.
Secure attachment can be earned, and let's not forget, this is the house of earnings. But we need safe people, actual face-to-face time, and proximity to do so. The second house ultimately is the area of life that shows the quality of the early attention we received, and that became the basis of how we value ourselves and participate securely or not in relationships. It is how attractive or beautiful we feel we are as a result of the attention we basked in, given by the female caretaker in our lives, how we perceive our worth as reflected in their eyes. Our earliest experience of romance is the affectionate response in our parents, and so as adults, 85 percent of how we respond to our romantic partners is actually us projecting the abundance or lack of love we received from our parents, especially the mother.